My sons behaviour is too aggressive around his siblings.

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Need some advice. My son is 3 and is being assessed for autism and adhd. He is speech delayed and won't toilet train. Developmentally he seems about a year behind his actual age. However he is very tall and strong which is what makes this difficult.

I recently had 26w twins and they've just come out of the nicu. DS1 loves them and loves helping me with them. However his behaviour is too boisterous.

He will do things like headbutt me from behind when I'm carrying a baby, or dive on the sofa when I'm feeding one. He will throw his toys around, attempt to pick up the car seat, pull my legs when I'm holding a baby, push the bouncy chair over (thankfully not with anyone in it).

He doesn't respond to being told no, he just does it even more and bites me. I usually give him choices and that works however I'm unsure how to deal with this as I can't afford to have him doing this in thr first place as his siblings could get hurt.

Has anyone dealt with this before?

It sounds as though it may be sensory seeking behaviour. Have you looked into sensory processing disorders? It can often be co-morbid with Autism.

It would be worth having him assessed by an OT who specialises in sensory integration. In the meantime you could read 'the out of sync child'. It gives a very good breakdown about SPD.

I haven't looked into sensory processing disorder, but I know he has issues with textures of food. I also have ADHD and strongly suspect autism, and have sensory issues.

Thank you for suggesting this ill have a look

Maybe get a trampette, or a big bean bag he can hurl himself into or throw things at? Seems unlikely he can stop but hopefully he can redirect with time. It's great that he loves helping.

This was just posted in another thread by @openupmyeagereyes - looks like the book could be helpful?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/special_needs/a3451020-Reception-auties-2018-19-thread-2?msgid=84329487#prettyPhoto/1/