well we had the meeting with the head and SENCO at nursery over dd,s black eye and the fact that she keeps coming home telling us so and so did whatever to her.
They said all children complain about knocks and pushing etc and said that they are a busy nursery and cannot keep tabs on "small incidents" so i said this isnt a small incident, our daughter is coming home upset and telling us that such a child hit,kicked or pushed her, and you are telling me that this is normal?
they said dd does tell them of someone upsets her and i said not true and gave them 2 examples of children biting her and throwing sand in her eyes, dh said why are accident books not being filled in and reports given to us to sign, they said they cannot possibly do a report for every minor thing that goes on and that the fact that they gave us an accident form to sign a month out of date was unfortunate but they,ve had a lot of supply staff in recently.
so i said are you telling us that you are not coping with dd,s needs and they said no.
she said that perhaps dd is coming home and telling us these things cos THATS WHAT SHE THINKS WE WANT TO HEAR
so i lost it and said no no i disagree strongly i think she doesnt feel secure enough for some reason or another to tell a member of staff that a child has hurt her.
so dh said we are going to keep a diary of what she tells us and write in with our concerns and if nothing is resolved then we will take the matter further.
PArt 2 early years hv has been round and suggested an EGG TIMER to help with dd,s tantrums,meldowns and not to give her TOO MUCH ATTENTION.
i was very good i kept my cool and just smiled and nodded.
i think i shall have a big glass of Rose wine and watch Dallas !!!!!