Got ASD son and feel guilty about working

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I have an 11-year-old DS with HF autism. He’s at mainstream school and is fairly happy there most of the time, has a couple of friends and academically is around average.

My DH works full-time and I work part-time. DH works from home quite a lot. I’ve been offered a great job but it would mean upping my working hours. We don’t need the extra money but the job is a dream job and I’d like to do it.

However, if I take the new job it will mean DS will be with DH more than at present, and the two have a tricky relationship. There is lots of conflict. I worry that my being away from home more often could be detrimental to DS.

I’m in a quandary as to whether to take the job and see how it goes or stick with my current job and be there more often for my DS.

Anyone have any advice/experience they can share?

I dont have advice or experience. I can only symphatise with you cause I know how it feels - my situation is similar.

Nothing has to be forever. If you take the dream job and it doesn't work out you might be able to evolve it into something that does. How would you feel about trying the new job and see how it goes? Give it a decent chunk of time - a year, 18m, 2 years - before you decide whether to make it permanent or cut back. It might be that them spending more time together works out better but if so it'll be a long term outcome, not something you'd see in a few weeks.