so this is it??

[Fio2]

MIL as refused to help october half term.....why am I not suprised???

I am sitting here crying

this is us forever.....no help....loads of shit....depression.....i give up

Oh Fio whats up. Sorry i'm not sure what you mean.

Your MIL was supposed to be helping you with the kids at half term ????

Oh Fio - please don't - this is just a blip, honest. If we weren't going away in Oct I would come and help. Cheer up, flower - things will get better

If i could get someone to have my kids i'd come and help you too, doubt it's possible though. Could always ask my mom i think though.

Oh Fio2 I am so sorry that you are feeling so bad. Was it anything special that she was going to help with, or more general hands on help and support.

Oh Fio, I am sorry, my MIL doesn't do the help thing either. JanH is right, it will get better. Once you've moved and settled, you'll build up a new support network and things will gradually get better. Pack yourselves up and come and stay with me during half term and you'll get a good chance to look around Wimborne and see what you think of it

Oh Fio - that's so crap . Please don't sit there crying and please please don't give up. I can come and help, honestly. Well keep you company anyway. I am not that far away and I'm sure dd would love to play with your two. I know its not the same....

also, you really should call homestart or crossroads or someone... if not now then when you move. you have to have a break.

Is this to do with moving Fio, or helping out in general? Shall we send the mumsnet boys round to sort her out for you? LAck of help when you most need it can be so draining, sometimes you can't see anything ever improving.

So sorry Fio....hate to hear you so down. Anything can happen between now and October, right? something will get sorted I am sure--look you have already had some great offers on this thread! I would offer, but I am too far away. XO

sorry about this rambled message! I was a bit worse for wear yesterday and today crikes.

I have just reached the end of my tether with doing everything by myself. I never ask for help and this is the first time I have ever asked MIL to help. I knew it would be a no, she is always so preoccupied by her 'other' grandson. I just feel it is going to be a nightmare holiday again. I am not doing well am I? Am I the only one that feels like this at the end of the summer holidays?!

I really need to sort myself out, I'm afraid. This is most probably a nother stupid garbled maessage! sorry folks

no fio2 i know exactly how you feel....

Don't feel embarressed in the slightest. I'm sure we all have moments like that. know i do . And you are perfectly justified in feeling like that. It is like another punch in the stomach when the people you would hope you could rely on, let you down. hugs {{{{ }}}}}

Nope Fio2- you're not the only one. I am only managing to hold it together as I know ds1 in back on Thursday. yesterday I lost it a bit. Too much screaming about the front door. We were going to risk a local open air museum place (as it has lots of walks if nothing else worked) but then ds1 screamed for an hour and half so we decided there was no point. Couldn't think of anywhere ese that wouldn't be to crowded.

DH decided to take him to Dartmoor- but he won't walk on the grass. One walk we used to do he will only walk a small way then wants to run around under a bridge- disaster as ds2 obviously wants to do the same and its quite dangerous for him underneath. Another walk is up a steep hill and my back is on its way out (pregnancy and trip back from bloody holiday). In the end dh took him by himself which was lucky as there was nowhere to park. There were free disabled spaces but non disabled cars had blocked the access. Luckily he didn't freak, dh gave up and took him for a 2 and a half hour drive instead.

DOn't worry about half term- it's short. Can you arrange to meet up with others- that's what I'll try and do. Seeing someone else in the same position makes it easier somehow!

I've already emailed you about my MIL

Know exactly what you mean Fio, we have no outside help either.

Fio, we all know what it's like, especially with no support. You've had a lot of stressful events recently, you are only human and have much to cope up with. Hope you are feeling a bit better today - lots of hugs.

Poor you Fio, its such a pain when help could be available but someone is too selfish to agree (see my holiday post!). We've never had any help, except what we pay for, and I decided long ago not to expect anything and to just sort things out ourselves. Its a grim way to go along really but realistic and now we can get on OK with family as we have no expectations.

Oh Fio bugger her grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Can you talk to her and tell her how you feel? Or can your dh? She should be told that she has other grandchildren.

well she hasnt rang me since the due incident of me asking her and i dont think she will. I feel sorry for her really. her life is dictated out by my SIL. She has to jump when Sil says so, else there is hell to pay tbqh

I am not going to get involved in it anymore, you are right davros, I should just accept that this IS actually it! My Mum is good but she works full time and when she comes down she just wants to go shopping all the time or walk along the beach. Which is nice but I have to live here, i am not on holiday!

i am just a moaning old crow sometimes dd goes back to school tommorrow so i suppose that will be a break in itself