Hi all, I would appreciate any thoughts/advice - sorry for length.
My DS- nearly 5, has undergone various assessment over past few years to try and diagnose issues he has- flapping when excited/lack of concentration/focus, very clumsy and obsession with spinning objects.
We now see a fantastic OT for sessions focusing on Sensory processing issues with him and I was optimistic- his nursery gave him a great final report and things seemed to be on "track".
He started "mainstream" (apologies in advance if my terminologies are wrong) school this September. At parents evening I was sad to hear even though he's made firm friends etc- there are issues e.g. he wont stand in line for lunch and then can lash out at other kids when distressed (although she said with other kids this can be far worse/more frequent that she has to call parents- this has never happened with us). He can't concentrate/becomes distracted/ finds the large class frustrating at times and his handwriting/number skills are below standard compared to other classmates.
My heart just sinks...
As he is a lovely boy and always shows empathy/genuine remorse when told off or knows he has upset anyone. He is able to now write and recognize letters in his name (albeit not always perfectly) and can start to recognise other letters. His storytelling/ability to describe stories in books is great. He can count to 20 and recognize numbers. He has made friends and once kids get used to him (his slight eccentric nature!) he becomes very popular as I saw at nursery- kids always running up to him hugging him/calling his name excitedly. His conversation/ general social interaction is great. When I pick him up from school and get there early I can see he is sat with other children in the circle, calmly listening to teacher, so I know he can do this (sometimes!).
Of course I want the best for him and would love him to make progress at school once more setteled there but how realistic is this ie. will he be ok staying in mainstream school? How low /behind do learning standards need to be until severe concern is raised? What more can we do to help him at home? Does anyone have examples where your children with SPD have gone on to be fine at school/pass exams/ go to Uni? Thanks.