bollocks

[Blandmum]

Saw the SENCO today, and she has a proposal for what ds will need in his transition to Y3. He has a DX of dyspraxia. It is so tough when you see it all written down isn';t it.

She wanted to talk about the extra funding that we can get from the RAF to support SEN, she wants us to apply for 10 extra hours a week. Now, I realise how lucky we are to get this, I honestly do. But I had to tell her that this will only happen if dh lives to September The look on her face made me realise what a mad world I'm living in atm.

Poor bloody ds. I realise that we are lucky that his sen are fairly small, we are lucky he is in a good school with a great SENCO, lucky that we have the money. But I don't want him to be 'lucky'. I want him to be OK.

oh arse mb .

Not very constructive of me I know but wanted you to know you were being heard.

It's always a bit of a 'stark reality moment' when you see it all written down.
And even though his SENs are fairly small, when it is your child, you are bound to feel emotional about it all.
He will be OK though.
The school sounds supportive, and he's got you as his Mum, so things will work out.

It is so hard seeing it all written down in black & white isn't it?

My DS has possible dyspraxia/ASD (still going through assessment process) & I worry so much for him & am really dreading him going up to year 3.

I hope your DS gets all the help he needs to make the transition to yr 3 that bit easier.

I am so sorry you are going through so much, MB.

He will be OK mb, I'm sure. My ds2 (he of the dwarfs actually) also in Y2, also dyspraxic. Is horrid to see it all written down in black and white, but they will make their way through, they can be lucky and ok and dyspraxic - I've decided!

You're right is a mad world for you. I'm so sorry. Your ds is well set up for his learning, they'll support his weaknesses and allow his strengths to fly.

I know you know this, but thought I'd say it too. Have a drink?

thank you all peeps, I nedded a MN 'chuck on the shoulder' IYKWIM.

Realise that I am V possibly dyspraxic too. The meeting with the SENCO could have been about me.

How are the dwarves BTW?

DX was a while ago, but seeing the 'proto IEP' just made it all real.

Oh arse MB

I hope you manage to get the extra help, for many many reasons.

Yes, I thought that about me too. When we were at the Ed Psych's she shoved this b & w pattern thing under my nose, was some sort of jigsaw, and I told her to stop, I couldn't understand it, it was making my head hurt, and she leant back in her chair and sort of 'appraised me'.

AND then I went away and thought, well I'm okay, so ds2 will be too, eventually, we just have to get through this 'school bit' first.

Poor little bugger got 1s in his SATs. And I know they are not that important. And I know that there are people who's dcs are on P scores. I do know that ds isn't that bad. But it is the black and white thing.

and on top of everything else I just didn't need it

No you didn't. It's rubbish and hateful to see it all written down like that. How is dh?

OK. Living past his sell by date

Was worried earlier this week because he had some d and v, but the hospital thought it was just a bug. He missed his chemo because of it, and that , while nice (cos the chemo makes him feel crap) worries him, because the cancer may well come back

OH ARSE.
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Eugh, no not a good week. Shelve the IEP now, they're going to do their job, your ds will make his own way and be well supported. Think about it again next week.

You are fabulous MB, it should be said.

Now can you have that drink?

later, I think, with a curry.

SENCO is really good. I realise that in many schools ds's problems wouldn't have been picked up and so this is a good thing.

I just don't want it to be happeneing.

mb, another arse and manly chuck on shoulder from me - but if you are dyspraxic too, what hope there is for DS!

Sad to hear that RAF financial support for DS will cease when DH dies? That seems a harsh extra burden for you. Glad to hear he is OK atm anyway.

(I mean, cos you have turned out more than OK!)

It will continue for the section of school that the kids are in. Which is very generous (not being sarcastic). So if dh lives to Sept, ds will get the support for all of his junior school years

I don't have a formal Dx btw, just seeing ds's Ed Psych report, it could have been about me. But like dd I'm OK with the reading, unlike poor ds.

Life is piling some shite on you at the moment mb. Sod the chuck you can have a (hug) - so there.

Glad your dh is OK at the moment. He obviously takes no notice of sell by dates