Really upset by nasty comment

[frascati]

Was at a clothes party last night and we were all chatting.
Anyway it came up about a child who has AS in year 2. One of the mums was saying how hard it is for this mum and how she copes so well as her ds is hard work. This one mum who knows full well my dd has similar probs came back with "well I don't feel sorry for people who have children like that. You know full well the risks when you have a child that they could have sn so just get on with it. Sorry but I don't have any sympathy at all"
Now I was stunned and didn't say anything. Just since then I have felt so upset and angry.
I can't believe people can be so bloody cold

What a horrible women. I agree with Fio - take no notice she's not worth it.

Crikey! What was eating her then? Clearly having a bad day of some description....

A bizarre over-reaction to something that, whether you agree with or not (although why you would think like that i dont know) you just nod your head and agree anyway.

if she spent the day in your shoes i'm sure she'd no longer be saying such horrible and hurtful comments.

what a complete b*tch

Frascati,ignore her.
A woman who thinks it is reasonable to make such startling rude and insnsitive comments obviously needs help.
Stupid cow.

im afraid i couldnt have had as much self control and would have blasted at her. not the way to deal with it but i wouldnt have been able to help myself. stupid cow. Im angry for you

Stupid cow, what a stupid statement... So what does she feel about people unlucky enough to suffer severe illness, or if you have an accident is it a chance you take when you get up in the morning?
What a weird woman

Ds has ASD and ADHD type traits although no dx (he has a statement with f/t 1:1 though) My mums best friend knows all about the problems we have has over the last few years and yet a couple of weeks ago started spouting about how most of the time there was nothing wrong with these kids and it was just an excuse blah blah blah. My mum said she was so shocked not only that her friend could think like this having known ds since he was born plus knowing how much we have all tried to support him but also that she could be so thoughtless as to say these things to her as the grandmother of a child with ASD and also an experinenced SENCO. She didn't say anything though and has decided to just ignore it as another of her friends mad baseless rants.

I know I should have said something but I was literally open mouthed shocked. I guess I am developing a hard skin as people just seem to say what they like where dd is concerned. I had another "friend" ask if dd will be normal when she grows up

dusty ~ yes have heard comments like that too many times. Of course our kids are just naughty spoilt brats

stupid cow. Fio is right, think you have to think she is beneath you, and try not to get wound up.

'I had another "friend" ask if dd will be normal when she grows up '

• what a weird thing to say !! What did you say to her ?

Also, what were the reactions of the other people at the party, Frascati ? Surely someone said something ????