Is it ever possible for life to be normal again???

[frascati]

Just thinking since dd has been born. She is nearly 8 and has a cluster of dx AS, adhd and dyspraxia.
Life has been so crazy since she has been born with everything that comes with having a child with disabilities.

no good advice here, Frascati, just sympathy for the craziness of life, and wishing you well

Frascati, I have no words of wisdom and somtimes feel the same! (my Ds has 7 similar fruit salad list of dxs to your DD!) However now I have to think in terms of a different kind of normal!! I do worry about the future, do you? The house will always have spills and tears to mop up, there will always be 'misunderstandings' and embarrising moments to smooth over, uphill battles with schools etc. However my son has the best smile, wonderful enthusiasm (even if it is for collecting every stick or conker!)and a joy (well some of the time) that lights his whole face! And looking back I think life has got slowly less chaotic! I even get to sit down in the park or to drink tea occasionally!! Blissfully normal things!

Oops that should have been age 7!

frascati...its something i think we adapt to...some days are so hard i just crave sleep- so i can wake up and start a new day.
i remain optimistic that tomorrow will be better when today has been a challenge.

my eldest is 13.5 now and we are still dealing with some behaviours/difficulties he has had since birth...but some have reduced...and others have appeared.

i feel like it is like we are running a hurdle race.... so me hurdles we stumble on...some we knock right over...have to stop- pick them up and start running again...but the rest of the world has moved on- so we never quite catch up/keep up with what everyone else seems to be doing. Some hurdles however we clear with amazing leaps and bounds...we feel the wind in our hair...the sunshine on our backs and we almost catch up.

(sorry i am rambling on...but posts like yours always hit home to me- as no matter how far on i go- i still have days how you feel)

i guess the thing that does improve is the knowledge that there will be improvements...good days etc...whereas for years you feel like nothing changes for the better.

i have 3 boys...13, with ADHD/Aspergers (and occupational therapist described him as dyspraxic)

10, with Aspergers syndrome- very emotional and easily frustrated/angered. He scares me.
I cannot imagine him ever living independantly of me.

8,not diagnosed but moving along the road to being assessed.

so for me, i now fully accept my life as 'normal'...i have now gone past feeling the loss of 'what could have been'...untill sometimes (like the saturday just gone- at a wedding)...when i am surrounded by families sitting nicely at tables - all children using cutlery....smiling...making small talk...and then it does remind me of what is different about my experience as a mum...

however....sometimes i even feel i have a better life than they do...