This is sad/insulting

[jenk1]

ive posted about my SIL before, to be brief, she has always copied everything me and DH do, when DS was dx,d as AS she said her ds2 had it and asked for a referral, she met with the clinical psych and ed psych and paed and they said not a trace of it what makes you think he has it, she said his cousin has it, my ds is not biologically related to her ds but dd is.

so when dd got dx,d with CP she said her ds2 had it
Last month we got our mobility car and the inlaws are not impressed we,ve had the usual comments of who do you think you are and that money belongs to dd, you should be putting it away for when she,s older.
but today about 4pm the phone rang and it was SIL sounding all excited, she told DH she had just come out of her GP,s and that the GP said he thinks her ds has CP and that he needs a "test" for it.
so DH said what makes you think he has it and she said he fell off the trampoline the other day and he has been limping ever since like dd does and i think and the GP thinks he has CP.
DH said oh, she said ill phone you when i get the results of the test.
DH started laughing at first then he said he felt very insulted, its well known in the family that sil is very jealous of anyone who gets anything and DH said "she,s after a mobility car".

i feel insulted she obviously knows nothing about CP cos she thinks you get it from falling off a trampoline, she actually wants her child to be disabled.
he has learning difficulties and has had various asessments by psychologists and paeds but she cannot accept this and says firstly he is ASD and then CP.

I know she's your SIL but I really want to smack her. Her attitude(?) really makes me.
I'm not surprised you feel insulted.
Who wants their child to be disabled FFS?

Very strange women. Her poor children

my goodness your Sil must really want to get her hands on a mobility car I can understand you feel insulted. im surprised the Gp didnt say its more than falling off a trampoline.

She sounds mentally unstable to me.
Munchausens by proxy perhaps??

Ignore her.

yes i had thought that myself moondog.
we do ignore her, we dont visit or phone her anymore.
she was like this when she discovered i had PND after DS.
she used to phone me up and say what were your symptoms and she went to the library and got a book called recognising the symptoms of PND. at the time i felt sorry for her cos the rest of the inlaws were ignoring her and saying she was an attention seeker.
she will go around and tell everyone she meets that her ds has CP now, she cant understand much about it can she?
and the way i feel is that i would give anything for dd not to have CP, or for DS to have severe AS so much that he hasnt been in school for 18months.

She does sound like a prime candidate for Munchausens by proxy as Moondog says.

thing is i feel sorry for her as she has not had a good childhood at all, but at the same time i dont want her interfering and messing up our heads like she has done in the past.

yes, I agree

She sounds very odd (to put it mildly!).

What kind of conclusive test is there for CP anyway???

What a mad woman! I thought my SILs were bad!!

Barking. Poor kids. Must be horribly frustrating.

She sounds insane. Hopefully lying about the whole CP test thing (it sounds like nonsense, it's not like Fragile X say where you can do a simple blood test for it).

you can't be "tested " for cp she is mad. and I don't blame you for being insulted..I am and I don't even know her

thats what i said to DH, what test are they doing cos id like to know, dd hasnt had one and if im not mistaken CP is usually picked up when they are a baby/toddler?

when dd was a baby and had severe allergies and had to do a restricted diet no wheat,tomatos.chicken,citrus fruit,dairy etc she said her youngest was like that and that he had bad asthma too, we have never seen her youngest with an inhaler, in fact she phoned me up to tell me that it wasnt a big deal you know, then when ds got dx,d with AS she suddenly wanted to come up all the time and was continually asking questions about the triad of impariments, she sent off for the dla forms and i said id help her fill them in and she said no she wasnt "arsed" any more about dla. dh said its because she had noone to back her up ie medically cos she was fabricating things, she will now send off for the forms again, she did this when she said she had PND, got dla for a year and then laughed as she spent it at bingo/going out.
DH thinks its all about money which i do agree but i think she,s unstable and not well and its a shame for her kids.

This is awful

I don't understand why anyone would wish their child to have something like that, just so they can "maybe" get a few quid.

Everyone I know that receives any support like DLA/motability would give it up in a flash if their children's problems could be cured. It's one thing keeping up with the Jones', but this is sick. I'm wondering if I met her, would she think her child has got the same (rare) genetic condition as my dd?

She obviously needs medical help herself. I feel sorry for the child, who will now go through a barrage of hospital appointments and unneccessary tests if the G.P. really has believed her.

hopefully though she just lies rather than putting her kids through tests/exclusion diets /hopeful emoticon?

this is so sad. both my dd's have had their fair share of hospitals and i personally wouldn't be able to handle anyone like this near me.

i really do hope she gets her act together and realises she is so lucky for having healthy children.

mummytosteven
no i fear that she wont just lie.
she has had various professionals involved in her ds and they all say the same thing, he has learning difficulties.
she wants there to be something wrong so she can claim dla,a car etc.
whenever ive been to the inlaws and anyone starts asking how dd and ds are doing she starts shifting around uncomfortably and saying things like god whats the big deal etc.

dh told her that we have got dd into an ican place and he said she didnt acknowledge that and changed the subject.

but this is a woman who regularly goes out overnight and just screams at her kids.
she has serious issues.

JENK1
OMG I THINK YOUR SIL IS AN EXACT CLONE OF MINE. SCREAMING,SHOUTING AT HER KIDS, HOGGIN THE LIMELIGHT DOES SHE LIVE IN MILTON KEENS WITH POTS OF MONEY?
SERIOUSLY THOUGH MY INLAWS NEVER ACCEPTED MY DAUGHTER WITH CP NOTHING LIKE THAT ON THEIR SIDE THEY SAID WHEN I PROUDLY GOT MY 1ST VW VAN SHE [SIL] RANG ME TO TELL ME HER HUBS HAS GONE OUT AN BOUGHT THE SAME VAN [ONLY BETTER] TO KEEP HIS TOOLS IN.
I HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH MY INLAWS AND CERTAINLY DONT LOSE SLEEP OVER THE FACT I THINK THEY PROB LOOKED AT ME THOUGHT [SECRETLY] HOW CAN SHE BE SO GOOD/STRONG/CARING LOL AND TRIED TO BREAK MY SELF ESTEEM CONFIDENCE TO MAKE THEMSELVES FEEL BETTER I DIDNT RISE TO IT THOUGH
I ALSO SUGGEST YOU BUY HER AS A GIFT A BOOK INTITLED SICKENED BY JULIE GREGORY THINKS SHE MAY GET THE HINT LOL.
XJ