My dd (11) has a rare chromosome disorder,she has a learning disability,is non verbal,has some gross & fine motor skill difficulties & is doubly incontinent. She attends a special school.
She mostly attends out of school activities which are for children with SN.
We have tried our best to integrate her into mainstream activities too. So she started out in Rainbows,then Brownies but I noticed that as she got older,she was getting increasingly isolated from the other girls,to the point where,when we were waiting to go into the hall,before the start of Brownies,all the MS girls would greet one another but no one spoke to my dd (and bear in mind they had known her for a few years by then!!).
We spoke to the leaders about it,and even though they were lovely & tried to encourage the other girls to play with her,they couldn't,obviously,make them.
So,last year,we decided to try Cubs instead,thinking boys would be more accepting than girls. It started out quite well,but 1 year on & it's the same story again & she has signed that she doesn't want to go anymore.
That leaves us with just disability group that she attends,which she loves & are brilliant.
Does anyone has a child with a significant SN that attends a mainstream activity successfully,where they have friends who do not have SN?
Is my dd just going to be segregated from society & just attend clubs/activities that are specifically for disabilities for the rest of her life, because that's how it feels. And in some ways there's a security in that, but in other ways it makes me both sad & angry.