I leant my Tony Attwood book to my mum and...

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she read it in less than a week, and said to me yesterday: Gosh, I do recognise you that book, not everything mind, but certainly a lot of it fits.

I've known for a while that I am different, and as I relate well to autistic children and those with AS, and thinking about it in the past with children who were later diagnosed with AdHd, I do wonder what I have exactly. Should it matter? Is it worth going for tests? What would tests achieve?

Any advice?

i suppose it only matters if you feel that it effects your daily life, does it?
it's only since my 3 were DX with autism and i have learnt a little bit about it that i can see that my DH is probably on the spectrum.

If you were keen to access any adult services (NB what exactly is available, if anything will vary from area to area), then I guess that tests would achieve something concrete, otherwise it depends whether you feel you need official confirmation/validation of your experiences/challenges you have faced in life, or whether it's enough for you to think - well I am think am somewhere on the spectrum, that explains a lot.

I cope with daily life, live independently, and just come across to other people as being quite shy. So can't really see the point in getting a DX, not sure it would really help, now that I'm in my 30's.

if you don't feel it would help then i wouldn't look to get a DX, i know lots of teenagers/adults who have a DX and they all said it was a huge relief to finally know and that it help then to make sense of things.

As others have said, if you think that you personally would benefit from a dx then its worth looking into it. Otherwise it's best to just leave it.

I would keep an open mind though. When the Paed told dh that he too was almost certainly on the spectrum (during an appointment for ds1) dh was pleased that a lot of things suddenly made sense but decided to leave it. Three years later, after a lot of work issues have come up, dh is now considering whether a dx would be worthwhile after all.