Bribery

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Does anybody else get fed up of people suggesting bribery as a way to get an ASD kid to do anything? I just want to scream 'IT. DOESN'T. WORK' in their face. I know they mean well, but it's so frustrating. I would kill for my kid to be able to be bribed!

I agree that their idea of bribery would not work with ds, e.g. money, toys etc... for what he sees as a high demand, e.g. getting dressed.
But I think most kids have got a point where if the bribe is high enough and the demand low enough, they will comply.

I think the standard things (stickers, sweeties etc) don’t work. What does work for us is a very clear set of rules that to get time with his special interest (currently involves playing Zelda on Nintendo or researching Zelda online), he first has to comply with getting dresssed, brushing teeth, school, eating some dinner, getting ready for bed, then 1 hour of special interest time. Non-compliance reduces the time in 15 minute increments.

Often, an hour of special interest time is not enough to outweigh the demands, and he will say he’d rather not do x, y or z even if it means no Zelda.

My DS is 9 and has HFA and is very bright but not very academically driven.

It’s not so much bribery as a statement of the rules of our reality. Jobs first, special interest time later and on the condition of jobs being done.

I use a mix of bribery, punishment and choices. Eg " it's up to you if you do your homework but you only get YouTube (for 30 mins) once it's finished.