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ds starting school - feeling nervous

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Eulalia · 18/08/2004 10:42

ds starts school tomorrow and I have so many mixed emotions. All the usual ones such as my baby is growing up etc... but all the worries about how he will cope and in so many ways he just doesn't seem ready. Emotionally he seems to be stuck about age 3 and doesn't seem to be getting any older (he was 5 last month). I am on tenderhooks in case he whacks someone. He hit an older girl in the park the other day. Doesn't seem to mind that kids are bigger than him. I know the teachers will be watching him and its a small school and the kids will be more understanding. It's mainstream and I so much want him to settle there but have doubts....

Also he is acting more autistic at the moment. Not cooperating, throwing his food around, shouting at people for doing the WRONG things. I just can't imagine him coping at school. He did do OK at nursery last year but it was a more relaxed setting and in some ways he seems worse now he is older because he has more understanding.

I guess I just need someone to hold my hand ...
Anyone else's child started school this week? I know it is a bit later in England.

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InternationalGirl · 28/08/2004 16:47

Eulalia - I'm so glad things started off okay for your ds. Hope it's all still good and it's great the school is so small - it'll be just like a little community.

Coppertop - I know just how you feel. DD (age 4.5) starts m/s nursery on Monday 6th too and I am so nervous. I was awake for an hour at 3am a few mornings ago thinking about what I could do to make it all easier for everyone. I am worried about how they are going to understand her or her them. We can barely understand what she is trying to say much of the time. I think she has verbal dyspraxia, although that remains to be seen. They wear a 'uniform' - poloshirts with the school logo and she has been wearing hers this week and seemed to quite enjoy the idea.

Luckily I have the day off work so am going to be there when she starts to try to help her settle in and introduce her around and then hubby and I are going to go off and have a nice lunch together. Can't remember last time it was just the two of us....

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Eulalia · 29/08/2004 14:47

Thanks for asking and good luck to all starting school soon . Gosh just over 4 seems so young!

ds is doing really well. We now have a notebook and the teacher writes in what they have been doing that day so I can discuss it with ds. He isn't too keen on homework and I can see that this could be a problem in the future but it is early days. I am hoping that his SALT appointment comes through soon although he does seem to be getting better on his own.

He starts full days on the 6th so I hope lunchtimes are OK (I have visions of him being covered in food at the end of the day )

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blossomhill · 29/08/2004 21:35

Apparently at first dd was giving her lunch away Have decided to try school dinners as she wasn't eating the packed lunch. At least with the school dinners they have more variety.

slightlymad · 29/08/2004 21:45

Eulalia, Glad your ds has got off to a good start.
My ds starts on the 3rd September and I am SOOOOO worried about it all!

He already has a statement and 13.5 hours of support with the same assistant he had in nursery - but I am still really worried!

Hope everything is still going well!

blossomhill · 29/08/2004 21:49

Wanted to add Eulalia that I am really pleased things are going well

coppertop · 29/08/2004 22:36

It sounds like an excellent start, Eulalia.

coppertop · 06/09/2004 09:22

Well ds1 started school this morning and looked all grown-up in his new school uniform. When I left him he was happily trotting off to join the others for carpet time. Dh has the day off from work and is now sniffing away saying, "He's only little." He's blaming it on his haygever of course but is really missing ds1, bless him.

Ds1 finishes at 12pm so no doubt we'll find out then how his morning has been.

coppertop · 06/09/2004 09:23

Or even his hayFever.

Thomcat · 06/09/2004 10:52

Feeling for you babes.
Lottie starts her pre-school tomorrow and filled with all sorts of emotions.
Have I chosed the right school???
Will it be too much for her, she can barely speak English and she'll be having french lessons!
All the pother kids will be so big, so tall, all running around, she's so small, bum shuffling everywhere and on carpet it takes her ages to get anywhere.
What if they exclude her, what if it's all too mych, blah blah blah!!!

Just want you to know I'm with you on this one!

InternationalGirl · 06/09/2004 12:47

My little one started nursery today so I'm with you all today too. Excited and nervous all at the same time. This year is going to be such a big year but nice that there is no pressure because it is just nursery - she'll just spend a year socialising and learning lots of new stuff. She was so busy she didn't even bother to say good-bye to DH and I as we left... but at least she was happy

blossomhill · 06/09/2004 19:05

coppertop - Hope it all went well today

Thomcat - Good luck for tomorrow. I am sure Lottie will be fine!

Blossomhillxx

coppertop · 06/09/2004 21:47

I spoke to ds1's teacher and he apparently had a really good morning. She even made a point of saying how well-behaved he was. Ds1 is certainly very enthusiastic about going back tomorrow. From the little bits of information he shared through the day (you know how they never seem to want to tell you what they've been doing! ) he spent his morning doing puzzles, games, and generally enjoying himself. Hurray!

I hope your dd's day went well too, IG. And good luck for you and Lottie tomorrow, TC.

eidsvold · 07/09/2004 00:48

glad to read all went well despite everyone's worries. If it is any consolation dd is just 2 and I often catch myself wondering what school will hold for her.... and then have to stop myself and tell myself to focus on this day..

SO pleased for you all though

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Eulalia · 09/09/2004 13:13

Thought I'd check in and see how everyone is getting on. Looks like good news! Only tears of joy I hope.

ds has been at school for 3 weeks now and is doing so well. He now knows about 8 letters and is writing some too and can just about write all the numbers. The thing that amazes me is that he doesn't need to copy (in fact he finds the concept of copying very hard) - he just does it straight out of his head.

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geekgrrl · 09/09/2004 13:21

what a reassuring thread - dd is due to start reception next september and i'm already feeling anxious. part of me wants to hold her back a year but i suppose other children will always overtake her developmentally anyway, so she might as well start at the usual age. glad to hear it's going well for other little ones with SNs.

coppertop · 09/09/2004 13:24

That's brilliant news, Eulalia. It sounds like he's making good progress already.

Ds1 has just finished his 4th morning at school. So far he's had no meltdowns (touchwood!) and seems to be settling in well. He really enjoyed his 1st day and was over the moon when he realised that he would be going back the next day. On the 2nd day he came bouncing out of the door to tell me all about how he'd pretended to be a fireman putting out a fire. He doesn't usually 'get' pretend play at all.

And what was the highlight of his 3rd day at school? "X did a poo in the toilet and it went PLOP!" - followed by ds1 collapsing into a helpless fit of giggles.

His sensory integration programme starts next week so I think he will enjoy that too.

sinclair · 09/09/2004 14:14

What a lovely thread. DD (DS) started reception last week, local primary, and just 15 kids (balance join in Jan where we are) She is thoroughly enjoying it, tho the fact that her LSA transferred from pre-school with her is a bonus. The transition was very well planned by both schools, LSA went on a DSA course which was brilliant, DD had a personalised photo book of her school day with pics of her in it to look at over the holiday which definitely helped...but I am still a nervous wreck as I drop her off in the morning. Evidence is that she recovers from this 'trauma' fairly quickly tho...and gets stuck into the home corner at the first opportunity. Bless them all, and good luck to all the other newbies!

fio2 · 10/09/2004 06:46

Glad everyones children are getting on well at school we worry so much about them getting proper funding , being vulnerable etc. that we forget that they may actually 'enjoy' going to school

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