Feeling really mad at their reaction!!

[staryeyed]

I am so mad right now. I have to rant to get this off my chest. I just told my parents that my ds has autism and it was as if I said he needed glasses. They were like "oh yeah, we thought something like that" "he's a bright kid he'll compensate" and then "don't put limitations on him". I was just like wth?- they suspected something and never let me know?! They live with me!! They have no idea how serious this is. After their unhelpful comments they went about there business. I don't know what to expect right now and I dont have the energy to explain to them what may happen etc. I feel so lost. My partner is being less than useful at the moment. I feel alone. I just wish I had a better support network.

oh dear sorry they weren't very helpful, guess they are hoping if they ignore the problem it will go away. are you UK based? as the NAS run Earlybird courses for parents of young children diagnosed with ASD, that may help you to talk to people who have been in exactly the same position as you.

How awful for you I remember when we told my MIL and she swore down the phone and told us we were being ridiculous.

Its very common unfortunately. I think it comes from a lack of understanding.

You're not alone, there's plenty of us here that have been through this. Feel free to CAT me, mt ds1 who is nearly six was diagnosed at 23 months.

hi staryeyed

Sorry to hear alone. I know what you are going through though.

A while back i remember my mum saying eloise was strange this really upset me..later on i said to her could eloise have autism and she said no! thats when they rock back and forth and they dont cuddle....so i left it at that.

I wish now i had looked on the net earlier to discover what autism really meant.

I explained to my mum recently what autism was really about as eloise is now being assessed for it and since then she has been really supportive.

My in-laws have been abit annoying though now...my mother in-law said perhpes eloise is like it because you havent taken her around tescos enough...i couldnt believe what she had just said...basically blaming me!! and my father in-law doesnt talk about it at all, apart from behind my back he said 'dont know what all the fuss is about'.

I have felt alone too...but talking to lots of mothers on the net who are in the same situation has been really nice.

if u ever want to talk send me a message.

take care
xx

Thanks for your messages of support. My parents read some autism material in a book of mine that I had left around. They now realise it is more serious than they originally thought. But I'm still mad- my mum said she suspected back in November. She hasn't even hinted anything. In fact whenever I have mentioned something she always shot me down with "he's a clever boy" like I was trying to suggest he was stupid. All this time she has thought not just that something is wrong but that he had autism.n I had no idea she suspected and have no idea why she has never said anything.