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Dh 9 physically aggressive

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jogalong · 08/07/2018 16:23

Please anyone thats being in this situation can you please help me. Ds is age 9 diagnosis ASD, ODD and ADHD. He has always had regular meltdowns and ive highlighted this reguarly with everyone involved. They just suggest another parenting course. Last year we visited the paed and he was started on meds. This has helped but recently hes kicked off really bad again.
His meltdowns now involve him lashing out at me. He's really strong and big for his age. Just today he punched me in the lip, grabbed me by the hair and repeatedly kicked me. There is no way to stop him until his meltdow passes. We were in a public carpark so it was impossible to contain him. Yes i know the triggers and we try avoid these as much as possible.
Dh was at work all weekend so no help there. He really cant tolerate meltdowns and leaves me to deal with them when they happen. Yes ds is more afraid of his dad and doesnt do them as much when he is around. Ive no other support.
Today i just feel like running away or worse. I can see very little hope for the future. Only me being more physically abused. Im so tired and worn out. Its very difficult to get anyone to help as nobody can manage him. Where do i go for help or what do i do?
Im normally so strongg hence probably why i got this far but now i feel broken.

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Sirzy · 08/07/2018 16:50

Could be that his medication needs “tweaking” worth talking to the consultant.

KateGrey · 08/07/2018 16:56

I’m so sorry. That must be awful. I have two dc with asd, adhd and spd. Your husband really needs to get involved. It’s not acceptable. I suspect hormones are playing a part here. Plus meds might need a tweak. Is he quite active? I find with mine (they’re not violent though one does scrap with another of our dc) that slot of exercise and diet do help. Do you use social stories?

jogalong · 22/07/2018 23:17

Thanks for replies. Yes i use social stories and he gets a lot of exercise, trampoline etc. Its just he goes from 1 to 100 in about 2 seconds.
Ill make an appointment for paed to see.
Anyone put their child on any particular medication that helped with aggression?
Thanks again

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