Sorry to post then go out but if I own the post now I'll lose my nerve.
DS is 13. He had trouble with making friends and social niceties from a small boy. Unfortunately he had to move schools in year one, year 3/4 and then was home with me until secondary school.
He has been in a lot of trouble at school. Nothing malicious, mainly silly and immature. Has been physical against others. He has also been on the receiving end of emotional and physical bullying. He has been let down by staff who wouldnt listen and has seen boys getting away with stuff and him punished.
Aged approximately 7 years a head who had only met him that day muted he might be in the spectrum then back tracked when I asked about it.
He has been doing something at home for years that he keeps getting told off for and he says he knows it's wrong but still he does it. It's not relevant what.
Last week, I'm only hearing today, he misbehaved but his statement does not match what happened at all. When challenged it was a lie he cried.
I think there's something wrong rather than him being bad.
I have to go for a meeting at school at the end of the week. Please help me get the best out of the meeting. I told them before he joined school he would need help with the social side. Twice I've been told they would put something in place. They haven't and his detention tally grows every longer.
MIL doesn't think he's autistic. She taught children with SN.
I was pregnant with his twin who died as nearly did DS and I at the birth. DS doesn't know this. I regret not telling him.
Please help. Thank you.