Regression in older children after/during sickness

[Lesley25]

That’s it really.
Ds 9 largely non verbal so couldn’t tell me where pain is has been dx with a uti and (Prob )viral sore throat.His behaviour understandably has been really bad. Where the smacking had subsided after almost a year of it, it’s right back up to constant as soon as any demand is placed on him like bedtime shower etc throwing food..
I understand this could be linked to illness but it’s almost like the lights have gone off in his eyes. No eye contact no interaction repetitive cycling in circles and echolia reinacting cartoon scenes.
I feel so sad about this, we all do. It’s like we are just a nuisance and if we were there or not it wouldn’t matter.
Just started the first day of trimethoprim antibiotic for the UTI and intervals of calpol and throat spray for the red throat to keep him comfortable and I stupidly thought that maybe he would bounce back but again behaviour horrendous today and in the past with antibiotics and his high pain threshold we’ve always noticed him back to happy soon enough.
I think I’m just worried that this illness hes regressed which tbh I’m tired of trying to put right the behaviour.

I've defiantly had similar issues with ds 8 (also non verbal) when he has been sick. Times of stress like a new teacher also causes flare ups for us unfortunately (i actually dread him going back to school in September!). It is very frustrating, having to deal with behaviour you thought you had dealt with.
We have had many a flare up of more negative behaviors when he has been unwell. You'd think he was a completely different child. Eventually he goes back to his happy little self! We've also had language regression but this is quite normal for ds (he often has a word for a while, then the sound changes, then it disappears completely, he currently only says 'no').
UTI's can be quite nasty, maybe he needs to be on anti biotics for a few days before you see any improvement.
I hope he feels better soon.

Thanks Spader, I’ve never had ds on antibiotics for a UTI before so im hopeful that once we have been on these for a few more days I’ll get him back.
We get the same re language. We have one word then disappears then reappears etc in times of stress and now illness.
Today we’ve been back to the Docs and now have 7 days of amoxicillin which will help the throat but was given for a red ear. We’ve woken up to conjectivitus too so an early morning call has given me some confidence back that what im seeing is just a poorly boy.
We’ve had no throwing of dinner or spitting and only a few incidences of smacking from him so today’s looking a lot brighter.
Thanks for taking the trouble to reply.