Pls help -Those with little ones with ASD...

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Does this sound like behaviour associated with Autism and perhaps emotion regulation/temper.

I was just sat with my DD and we were watching BGT on catch up. I started just very slightly “bopping” along to the music (lol) and my DD (age 7) shouted stop and then kicked my hand holding a hot cup of tea, which went all over the place, including me. She doesn’t know why she did it, she said it poss makes her feel embarrassed. Not the first time it’s happened.

She’s also so impatient, aggressive (threw a plate at Husband this morning when he said no to something)

Won’t say I love you (think I’ve heard her say it once), not v cuddly.

Just came home from party where she didn’t speak and was clingy with me and instantly and urgently rummaged through drawer for coins, putting them in pile on bench. Then changes into warm fleecy clothes as she finds soft clothes a comfort, despite it being over 20degrees.

The other day she had a public meltdown and tried to attack a man as he blew his nose and she can’t tolerate that noise. I had to restrain her.

Her recent ASD assessment was inconclusive and they are now focusing on anxiety.

She does have OT support for sensory and motor skills.

She has Selective Mutism and Sensory Issues.

I just don’t know if all anxiety related or ASD and she’s been under assessment since she was 3...

Huge hugs op. This sounds like my son who has a diagnosis of autism, he also is a fighter not a fighter, so to speak. He acts out when anxious. I am no expert however
The only way you will get definitive answers is for them to assess again? Girls can mask autism very well, so I deffo think it's worthwhile asking for a repeat assessment...

We have an appointment with Paed in Feb and a CAMHS referral for anxiety. We are lucky DD has OT support for sensory/motor skills. Speech and Lang liaise with school re: Selective Mutism. We have strategies to calm but she can be v physically aggressive, probably not helped by hormones as looks as though also going to have diagnosis of precocious puberty.

I don’t know, I just get the feeling it’s more than anxiety and SM. Whether there’s an ASD behind it, ocd or even adhd traits. It just drives me crazy. I know meeting her needs and providing correct and sufficient support is what really matters, which I think she is getting - keeping close eye on school, she has a lot of support, currently no formal EHCP.
I just can’t help going over and over in my mind (H is the same), about whether she is on the spectrum or not or ocd etc.

I’m not sure whether it’s the correct diagnosis but feel as though they are looking into what else has created anxiety - however we have seen unusual or anxious behaviour from such a young age and no major life changes or trauma etc...

I guess I am a little anxious and a perfectionist so perhaps she’s picked up on that a little.

She has sensory struggles and tried to physically attack someone (a stranger) the other day due to noise. 😬

Yes, you’re right, I am a little anxious, but I think natural to try and analyse behaviours when we have a lot of meetings with Paed etc asking us all about her behaviours.

It’s that I don’t want anything missed but on the other hand, I don’t want an incorrect diagnosis either. At least we have referrals and support in place.

You are right, I think it’s because I probably feel she actually is on the spectrum.

However, we are pleased with the support she’s receiving, but need to keep close eye on school, particularly as work and pressure ramps up.

They have mentioned looking into Dyspraxia also.