Son never invited to parties

[legofansmum]

My heart could break for him. That's the third party in a month I've seen with the boys in his class on Facebook (parent's have posted)
He is Year 6 and has Autism. He doesn't really fit in and he annoys them 😢 It's so sad to see and I wish I could help him more.
In September he is going to a different secondary school than all bar one child. I hope things improve and he can find a friend or two. He likes WW1 and 2 to an almost obsessive degree. I'm taking him to London on Weds so will include a visit to the Imperial War so he has something to look forward to.
I'm glad it's half term as it nice for him to hear on yet another fun party he's missed out on.

💐 stay strong, it won't last forever.

My middle and youngest don't get it mites either - it makes me sad esp when my eldest is popular.

Bletchly park in Milton Keynes is good for people who like world war two, it's all about the codebreakers.

I agree exactly with what @zzzzz said. You just have to take control and do your own thing. Getting invited to birthday parties isn't a measure of how happy and good your son's life is. It's much more about how he gets to fulfil his desires and preferences in life.

Have you sat down ans asked if he really wants to go to the other boys' birthday parties? Does he actually enjoy them?

Being popular is not as important as being true to yourself.

It used to really upset me too, my son is different and can annoy the other kids. I think the point above about taking control and doing your own thing is excellent.

I always used to make sure we did some kind of activity that was 'better' than what the party had to offer so when the 'We were at X's party and you weren't invited and we had an amazing time doing xyzand you missed out then my child could say I couldn't come anyway because we did abc that day'
I used to tie myself in knots about what to do to lessen the feeling of exclusion because it's so vile.

I'm so sorry. I understand. My year 7 ds has 2 friends although they not friends in the traditional sense. They both have the patience of saints.

I have that too many times even from friends I've known for years .im glad my son does not understand.

My DS has rarely been invited to parties throughout primary school. The mums will often ask me if he is coming to so and so's party and then look embarrassed when I say he wasn't invited (damned if I'm lying to spare their awkwardness since usually they did the same thing!). Luckily DS doesn't really care and he ended up with one good friend which was enough for him. He is also starting Y7 in Sept and I worry for him. He spent the first 3-4 years of primary wandering alone in the playground at lunchtime but the last few years have been ok. DD saw him on the induction day yesterday (the other years weren't allowed to mix with the year 6's at break times on induction days) and said he was walking around alone. Made me worried about what will happen. He was ok though and said he found a boy he liked today so maybe it will work out. He's my gorgeous boy but he can be hard to get along with - I get it and I don't really blame anyone. It's just hard to watch :(