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DD Yr11 stopped attending special school - what next?

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Familyfallout · 08/03/2018 23:12

After some help and advice please. DD aged 15 with Aspergers syndrome attended mainstream primary with 1:1 support, and then moved to special school for children with autism in yr7. She has very disruptive behaviour at times (brought back from school by 4 police officers handcuffed in back of police van last year, ambulances called to teachers she has assaulted). She does settle down in between these outbursts, but recently she has had to be pulled out of all qualifications (GCSEs and functional skills) as she is not coping with the stress or engaging with the classes. She was getting disruptive again, and we were getting called to pick her up 5 minutes after her taxi dropped her off as she would have walked out of the school or refused to move out of a room. Previously if these cues were ignored violence would ensue, so the school do call us to pick her up (not sure if anyone else has this happen?).

Anyway, we now have emergency EHCP annual review meeting planned for week after next. DD has tried going into school for 1 hour a day on a kind of phased return (it would have built up to 2hrs then 3hrs etc) with me in the waiting room in case she wants to go home sooner. She has been trying but last week there was the snow and her school was shut 2 days and today she did no work, set off the fire alarm and pushed her teacher. I have told her that is it and I will not take her in again. She is very worried about not getting an education and what will happen to her in the future.

She doesn't want to consider any options - another special school for fresh start, mainstream college/6th form with support, residential college..I cannot home school as it would cause me a breakdown emotionally so that is not on the table. I have read about interhigh but I would struggle to support her (can the LA give a TA for that?) and presume she would be isolated which is a lot of the problem now (hardly any girls at her school and less than 15 kids in whole school).

Anyway - I just wondered if there were any other suggestions we haven't considered? DH has researched studio/technical schools but I don't know if that would be realistic and how much support she could have? She likes reading and history and strongly dislikes maths. Thanks for getting this far!!

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Cheriesmith · 09/03/2018 16:37

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Familyfallout · 09/03/2018 17:47

Sorry to hear about your DD being expelled Cheriesmith. I don't think my DD has any other psychiatric diagnoses, but she has been on the waiting list for camhs since April 2017 and is still number 63. She just gets frustrated and she expresses this with aggression (and always has since a preschooler). She isn't too bad at home, it has been the stress of GCSEs. We've had lots of meetings with the school (who are great and really want to help) but we are all at a loss of what to do with her now. Tonight she did say she might consider a college access course and we talked about online school.

What is your DD doing now Cheriesmith? Is she at a college? Thanks for the reply.

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Cheriesmith · 09/03/2018 21:22

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