DS, who has just turned 4, has been going to preschool for nearly 2 years now (initially just a couple of mornings, now everyday). I've had a few 'talks' with them over this time, due to them assessing him incorrectly (in my opinion) as he didn't display whatever skills at preschool when I knew he could / does do it.
This week however had a very serious talk with the preschool leader about areas of concern, to me it looks very much like ASD (Aspergers) - struggling to interact with other children, often completely ignoring them; failing to initiate communication (he speaks well but for a long time didn't speak at all at preschool); struggling to adjust to new situations (they have just moved buildings and he doesn't cope well with that). Add to that other things like stimming behaviours and repeating sounds over and over, and the picture is pretty clear.
Preschool are now getting someone in for a proper assessment and to get SEN help for him in place.
I just feel so, so guilty and shit about this. I'm undiagnosed but pretty sure I have Aspergers myself and I just feel so bad that he's probably got this from me; I also remember how desperately unhappy I was at school and how anxious and worried, I really don't want him to experience that!
And whilst I think it's great that he may be getting some help with that I'm also worried that once he's 'labelled' he will be treated differently at school and written off 
Not actually sure why I'm posting this, I guess I need some reassurance that things will be alright; in the meantime any hints as to I can support him best would be great, as would any advice what I need to look out for with his assessment- is there anything he should be getting, like an EHCP? He's starting school in September and I'm just so worried about him.