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SN children

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I wanted to say something that occurred to me last night about me as a mum with dcs who do not have SN, being on the SN boards.

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Wotzsaname · 28/04/2007 11:20

I wonder how those on the SN boards think about the likes of me and others posting. Similar to the Gay boards. I have 'include special needs' ticked. I like you lot!
My dcs do not have SNs. I did not want to sound patronising by saying anyone is a 'great mum' and I am sorry if I ever offend.

Am I thinking too deeply today?

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MegaLegs · 28/04/2007 11:23

I have a child with SN and I like the fact that parents of NT children read and post on SN boards.

wheresthehamster · 28/04/2007 11:35

To me, it's all about education. The more parents of NT children who read the SN boards the more we understand the frustrations, the milestones and the sheer energy and single-mindedness of the parents to get what their children deserve.

I have only been on MN about 6 months but my knowledge and indignation about getting the help that SN children have a right to has grown a 1000-fold.

I hope I would not offend anyone by reading these boards and posting if I had anything useful to say.

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Wotzsaname · 28/04/2007 11:55

I have friends in RL who's dcs have SN.
One couple found out only a few months ago that 2 of their 3 children have been diagnosed with an extremely rare degenerative issue, and the long-term outcome is not good.

Another friend lost her baby who had heart and another rare disorder when she was only a few months old.

I know another couple, who I haven't seen for ages, who have 2 teens, who have lots of heath problems but are fit and well and looking forward to college.

My old fiance had 2 children who has MS, who I still contact and catch up with.

I am sure we all know some-one and knowing more, helps everyone including me and my dcs understand the big wide world.

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2shoes · 28/04/2007 12:38

well I have a dd with sn but have larnt loads by reading other threads about autism and the like.
i think parents with dc's that re nt can offer loads of support to parents with sn dc's.

bobalinga · 28/04/2007 19:36

I think its great. Then you can see we're human and our children are people. So many mums shy away from us and are slightly fearful I think.

gess · 28/04/2007 21:43

I go on the gay boards all the time. I find it really interesting. I recently met a gay activist (very well known) and found her POV really interesing. I learned a lot from talking to her. I don't feel like I'm a voyeur on gay threads, more I'm interested. I'd assume anyone reading SN was the same. More the merrier. Welcome.xxx

onlyjoking9329 · 29/04/2007 00:53

i like all parents who come on the SN bit, ok i have kids with SN but i think for inclusion to work we need to mix, lets face it if people bother to look at the SN bit they are interested which is good

mamazon · 29/04/2007 01:07

i think its great that people with no first hand knowledge of Sn still want to come over to Sn. it shows that people are still open to leanr about something that although not a factor on thier life is still part of society.

its just a shame that so many misunderstandings and therefore fall outs had to resort in us being seperated in teh way we are now

coppertop · 29/04/2007 15:32

I think it's great that people without SN children are interested in reading and posting on the SN board.

mymatemax · 29/04/2007 22:47

SN is only a part of our children, nt or sn we are all parents & advice & opinion are always welcome.
I also agree education is so important to improve understanding.

NotanOtter · 29/04/2007 22:51

i honestly feel so much better informed for being part of the sn boards despite having nt children
i have learned so much and am so grateful for having my whole outlook broadened/ I really hope you dont mind me being here!

thedogsbollox · 29/04/2007 22:53

Well I do read and post now and again - I think that we are all parents first and foremost and that is a bond that unites us all, irrespective of our children

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Wotzsaname · 30/04/2007 09:02

Thank you for replying and I wasn't around yesterday, otherwise I would have posted back sooner.

Look forward to seeing you on mn.

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FioFio · 30/04/2007 13:50

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hk78 · 04/05/2007 00:30

wotzsaname i wish more people were interested.

most people are happy in their ignorance. some of them think it's catching, i think.

i am a mum of sn dd1, but also have nt dd2.

Mumfun · 04/05/2007 20:59

This thread really helped me. Wasnt sure what attitude to me would be. Have DS just put on the Special Needs Register for behaviour reasons. Have started to read Special Needs board with a lot of interest.So feel a lot more comfy now -thanks. But probably my situation is more unusual on this board.

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