Coping with your child being "that child"

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DS is now at the point at school were he's needing "positive handling" as he's trying to abscond every morning. Of course this draws nosey eyes from the other parents as he's climbing the fence and has staff trying to persuade him down or he's running for the door every time it's opened.
How do you deal with the looks and sniggers, apart from telling them to fuck off which wouldn't be overly helpful 😀

You develop a thick skin (honestly you do)

You ask school if you can drop off late after the crowds have dispersed so at least there is not an audience. Or if you can drop off at a different door.

You ask school to create some kind of "Fun" or al least non-stressful activity first thing in the morning to ease the transition - ds2 was in charge of feeding the birds at one stage which helped.

You question (and I think this is the most important one) if it is the right school for a child who tries to escape every day and has to be restrained from doing this. He must be very stressed to do this. We really regret forcing ds2 to go to school for so long when he was showing similar signs of distress.

We're trying to get a more suitable school, this is all adding evidence that he can't cope in mainstream.
He goes in a different door and basically can call the shots for what he does, he just hates the leaving part.

Hugs, we have the same problem. I don't get sniggers but do see
a lot of mums with a very SYMPATHETIC expression and a bit of 'I don't know how you cope' (THANKS!!). However, along with that many have been helpful too. I'm afraid I avoid a lot of the parents these days but I'm aware that just makes things worse.

Its hard, i have yet to grow a thick skin and even when other parents are being nice i still get annoyed. More my problem than theirs. My ASD DS, 5yrs was at a party yesterday and had a great time/behaved very well. One of the mums trying to be nice said “she is always amazed how much the other children adore him and really try to include him”!!! Why shouldn’t he be liked and included??

oh I know what you mean. Even the ones trying to be nice can be horribly patronising. We bumped into girl in his class (not someone he ever played with) and her mum once just before term started.The mum beamed at DS and said 'X is very happy you're in her class'. I loved how DS frowned and said 'why is she happy?'

I've heard passing comments such as "Oooh I'd never let my child behave like that!" Like I just let him for shits and giggles though I may have sniggered when he kicked the Head

The very pompus Head may I add.

The Head chased after me once when I was picking them up. DS very sweetly offered him some of his crispy bar (or whatever). Head embarked on tale of woe that DS had said 'I'm going to give you a knuckle sandwich' to someone. Straight out of one of the more retro Batman episodes I'm sure. I burst out guffawing which of course I hastily converted into a coughing fit.

Could you pick him up 10mins early from reception?

I guess grow a thick skin. i can't imagine what it's like to hear comments. I avoided playground as much as possible for first 4 years

Other parents can be so patronising and twattish.

I'd ask to be allowed to take him to school earlier with perhaps a special job to do when he gets there (DS used to be in charge of taking the chairs down off the tables) or later than the other children, so it is calmer and quieter with no gawping onlookers.

Hope you find another school soon. Does your son have an EHCP?

He won't go in earlier as he won't spend a second longer than necessary there. Can't do later as I need to get to work.
He has an EHCP, we're waiting on a meeting then it going to panel to see if they'll allow a more specialist school.