Why do friends/family not talk to me about dd? It'sLonely isn't it!

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I'm just wondering- do any others have this?
Dd flies under the radar so to speak but we have had huge difficulties over the years all long history as to what we have been through.
Eventually dx with ADHD and few other bits and trailing medication.

Anyway I don't understand why no body talks to me about it? I have been to my mums today she never speaks about dd and any dx or anything it as if I am making it up. My dd brought up she is on new medication and my mum never asked anything or said a word.
My friend today also didn't ask a word- people don't ask or when I talk say anything.
:(

People don't know what to say. I'm lucky that my mum's just listens. Iv always found it better talking to other parents of sen kids.

"People don't know what to say" and they don't want to understand and they minimise everything, tell you you are exaggerating and it's so isolating. I've even given books to family saying read that, it shows how dd goes through life, but no, that's far too much to ask apparently.

Best resources I've found have been online, mainly here and blogs.

I don't have FB, but have heard that finding a local FB support group can be great, so try that if you've not done already.

I'm finding this difficult. Every time I mention the word "autism" my mum pretends she hasn't heard and changes the subject. I tried by email too in case that helped but all I got back was bright, breezy newsy stuff about her latest craft project.

It's tricky and it makes me relectant to leave DS with them.

It funny. Mine will talk about his anxiety but not his ASD at all. It's like one is socially acceptable and 'normal' the other isn't.

We totally have this too - no one knows what to say and if I raise it cue awkward shifty conversation where they don’t really want to hear the answers if it’s not ‘everything is ok now’ it’s so lonely and I hate not being able to talk about anything. My parents are the worst - shut me down everytimd I even raised a subject that might be slightly negative or when I need to have a bit of a vent.

You aren’t alone!