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want another child so badly

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arena · 21/04/2007 20:24

Hi everyone i have a 3yr old boy who has autism, what really are the chances of having another child with autism. I know my husband really wants another one, but i dont know if i can handle it.

It makes me feel so sad when i see a pregnant women, i wish i was brave like some of you women. I have being now thinking about it for the last year, will i ever change my mind.

thanks for listening.

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eclipse · 21/04/2007 22:31

Hi, arena, I'm pretty sure you should be able to get genetic counselling to help with this decision. You should be able to get a referral from your paediatrician to a geneticist. They can check whether there are any chromosomal indications and, whether there are or not, give you some help based on research studies. They would only be able to give you probabilities but that may help you to make the decision.

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bubble78 · 22/04/2007 17:17

hi arena
we too had the same decision to make our ds age 4 has asd and we where undecided as to whether or not to have another we had chromosone tests done but it showed nothing up we where told it was a 15% chance of second child having it aswell
in the end we decided to take the chance and i am now 6 months pregnant avoiding all things they say too plus tuna ( hi mercury) no dental work no painkillers nothing just to have the best chance..

in the end i decided i wouldnt swap the son i had for the world so if a second child has it we would cope and love it just the same obviously...

in the end the desire to have another child won out
good luck with what ever you decide
xx

jenk1 · 22/04/2007 18:41

i felt the same as you do, we went ahead and have had DD, she was 3 last friday, DS is 11 this year and we thought long and hard before having another, DD is also on the spectrum.

We wont be having anymore as DH has had the snip, its very hard work but i wouldnt swap any of them, i would have always been wondering what if, so im glad we had DD.

HTH

Mitchell81 · 22/04/2007 20:06

I have DD who is 6 and has an unknown genetic syndrome and we were told we had a 1 in 4 chance of having another child with the same condition. 10 months ago we had a DS, who is perfectly healthy. So you can be lucky, but even if the worst happens you will love your other child as much as you love your first.
We even thinking of having a 3rd.

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arena · 23/04/2007 11:12

thank you everybody for posting, me and hubby have being thinking about it over the weekend, and we have decided to go for it.

I know i could never live without my ds, and i would,nt change him for anything.

Like some of you have said, i would avoid all triggers second time round, thanks agains.

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mum24boyz · 23/04/2007 11:19

good luck arena, i know i didnt post before cos i couldnt think of anything to say that hadnt been said, apart from that if you dont do it you will prob spend the rest of your life wondering, hope it all goes really well for you.

coppertop · 23/04/2007 11:22

Good luck, arena.

gingertoo · 24/04/2007 12:24

Good Luck arena!

I am 30 wks preg. My DH's son (from his previous marriage) has autism. We didn't plan this preg but since discovering we were having another child, we have wondered / worried about the chances of us having an autistic child.

We decided against genetic counselling on the basis that any results / probabilities would not change anything for us,as I was already pregnant, and high probability results would worry us more.

My Stepson is very challenging BUT also very loving, excitable and funny. We love him to bits! It is hard sometimes, but we do cope and if it happens that we have another autistic child, we will cope again!

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