when i grow up im going to have a disabled baby

[jenk1]

and then i can get loads of money and a free car my 8 yr old niece (who i strongly suspect has asd) said to me and dh yesterday .
we were stunned.
we explained to her that no money or free car in the world would ever make up for the fact that dd needs a wheelchair and has varous other SN.

i felt that strongly about it and also wondered where she had got it from that i phoned my sister to tell her and she laughed.
so i know where she has got it from, and thats really .

jenk1 a bit of jealousy on your sisters part mabye? Don't ever be made to feel guilty for getting help with dd. I can only imagine that your job is hard enough as it is. Sure dd is wonderful though

weird isn't how people cen seem to be jealous of us. the pots of money and flash cars we have ..........pmsl.
oh and respite they want that too.
can understand how sad it must make you feel hearing that. agree no amout of money can EVER make up for having a severely disabled child.
I think your sister is tragic

If your 8 year old niece does have asd, she perhaps is not thinking of the emotional consequences, so in her eyes, it is a good thing.

remember your niece cannot conceive of how much it is possible to love someone. 8 isn't very old at all.

i think jenk was more upset by the sister laughing

yes, the sister laughing - sorry I kind of scanned that bit. What a cowbag. She has no insight.

i agree with you both, T didnt understand what she was saying, i wasnt annoyed with her, i was more annoyed at my sister who doesnt want to know anything about my problems and has hinted at people with SN kids "milking" their disabilities, also it could have been my sisters ex who is still much involved with the kids as when we found out DS was AS, he said "If he were mine id take him to Las Vegas and win loads of money with him"

i was telling my mum before and she said its disgusting and who has T heard it from cos an 8 year old girl just doesnt say things like that.

oh, Jenk, how horrible for you. I would be in orbit - whoosh - with fury.

However...is your sister feeling bitter because she does not get enough educational etc support for her dds needs, do you think?

my sister is a very jealous person full stop.

always has been, with regard to her dd,s education, T is ok at school, well i think she copes, my sister cant cope with her 2 and she has from sat-mon without her daughters as they go to their dads, i think she is unhappy and this is one of the ways it comes out, i wont have a row with her though cos i think she,s depressed and i know exactly how that feels.

she keeps saying oh we will have to go on day trips out when you get your new zafira

its strange but a year ago i would have cried over this but now even though im annoyed its like im not letting it become a big thing between me and her which i could hav done, oh i rambling again

Jenk - it sounds as if you have taken an entireley rationl appraoch to this - it doesn't sound as if she means it personally against yu, but is much more to do with her own issues.

good for you - but it would be nice to be able to give each other mutual support without strings and issues, wouldn't it?

hey ho! Nothing's ever simple!