School concerned about 4yo DS behaviour - help

[WireMummy]

DS started school in September and yesterday we got called in and his teacher told me certain traits are red flags and we need a GP appt to get the ball rolling for some form of assessment. Traits are:
Constantly repeating the same thing
Obsessive about numbers
Would rather play on his own than with children
Not making eye contact during conversation

What is it that they think is wrong with him? Is it likely to be autism? Any help or heads up would be very much appreciated.

It sounds like that may be what they are worried about, but did they not say? Did they talk about what they can do to support him? They shouldn't need a diagnosis to put support in place.

Our DD is three and we are told she will likely get a diagnosis in Spring. It was such a shock and I was so upset at first, but the more I read (and also watch YouTube videos of adults on the spectrum) the more I realise it isn't the end of the world. She's just herself and will need some help with certain things because the world is built for a slightly different group of people, not because there is anything inherently "wrong" with the way she does them.

Was it the school SENCO you saw or his class teacher? Can you get another meeting so you can ask more questions when the shock has passed a bit?

yep, get the ball rolling as it can take up to two years to get to the top of the waiting list.

Yes get ball rolling with gp but also make sure the school put an iep (individual education plan) in place. Then EA here needs 3 ieps before they will accept a ref to ed psych