Can someone answer a question ADHD girl- I'm confused!

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So how can dd be fine in some situations?
We are on brownie camp and she is great.
Is it because it's new, novel, stimulating, something she wants to do, movement a lot, don't have to sit and concentrate??

I'm so confused as she doesn't look ADHD in these situations?
Hope you understand what I mean! Sorry for any ignorance

I'm a bit rushed so not explaining too well. But she is engaged, taking instruction well, and not fidgety but the. Again they are so busy and on the go all the time

Although just hit me on the sly as I wouldn't carry her coat and she is getting tired so I'm guessing she will be awful when we jomr

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Is it because it's new, novel, stimulating, something she wants to do, movement a lot, don't have to sit and concentrate??

Yes, basically that is it

Mine is fine at Brownie Camp or Summer Camp, but it's because they are kept busy and what they are doing is exciting.

Oh my word. I was beginning to Wonder if dx was correct! How old are yours? Could anyone expand please?

Yes, ADHD isn't about being defiant and naughty. It's about struggling to focus when they need to. When they are engaged in the activity they are able to put more into it, the same as any non ADHD person is but when the activity is less interesting (homework for example) then it's a lot easier to go off task. It can seem like bad behaviour in many cases because they are not doing what they are supposed to be doing then. With fun and engaging activities like camp there are enough things going on that they can be moving from thing to thing keeping the mind moving just as it "wants" to do in ADHD kids, and the problem is invisible. Also like everyone they have good and bad days for concentration. Girls are also quite different to boys in many cases too and ADHD can present quite differently. Have a google and you will find quite a few articles about it - it's part of the reason why some ADHD girls may go undiagnosed.

Thank you so much, it all makes sense. It's very hard to explain to people and I need to get it clear to myself. That makes sense and if I can keep talking on here that helps me too.
I get so many people who don't believe me etc but it's very real. But it does all confuse me so any reading material or things I would be really grateful.
It just seems it is not the stereo type of what ADHD is and it is so inaccurate what people think it is. I guess I would have been guilty of not knowing either.
It's hard for me at the moment to feel confident to say she has ADHD when I don't understand how it can become invisible or manageable some days/moments

I fear I may be slated for my uber-cynical opinions. My DD is heading for ADHD diagnosis. I don't believe it myself - I think she has ASD. But what does it cost to treat ADHD? Ritalin is nice and cheap. What does it cost to help children with ASD? Lots of one to one - expensive. And if that doesn't work special schools - really expensive. Not wanting to offend anyone who feels both their child's ADHD diagnosis and ritalin treatment is absolutely right! By the way DD is also absolutely fine in some situations eg looking after a pony day (she is absolutely wild about animals).

Not sure where the above comments fit on this thread to be honest. Without detailing my long story I don't believe in my case it's cost although I appreciate what you are trying to say.

Shybutnotretiring you don't actually get "lots of one to one" with ASD.
In class help, if that what you are ignorantly talking about, is based on need diagnoses means nothing, you are just as likely to see someone with ADHD have one to one or in a special school as some one with ASD. Likewise someone without a definite diagnoses could also be in a special school, likewise some with communication disorder.

Let's not let the thread get into this territory please. Comments made are not what I have been asking so if we could stick to helping me and any others who wondering the same it would be great - thanks :)

Actually it may be a good idea to think about why they are looking at ADHD? My dd was down the wrong path of asd which didn't really fit. I evidenced why it didnt fit etc and questioned things as they actually admitted they didn't really know. Long story but just a quick aside to say if you don't think it's right seek second opinion etc

Waiting you might find it helpful to read some accounts by adults with ADHD who can shed some light on your dd's presentation.

Shy it's quite possible to have ADHD and ASD, often it's not until the ADHD is medicated that the ASD becomes more evident.

Thanks polter, am trying to get
My head round it all. It's such a minefield as its not as I thought ADHD was.
Yes totally asd and ADHD could be present. I'm happy dd is not asd after two ados and more assessments etc but will be Monitoring just in case

ADHD is often not at all what we think it is. It's surprised me too having met adults with it!

Would you mind and anyone else sharing any snippets. I have been reading and I'm shocked at how little I know and what stereo types I have, I keep questioning myself! Once I feel confident in my knowledge I can talk to school etc as they say things like "she is just like any of the other children in class etc" I need to be knowledgable as it's so irritating!!

Here's a start: m.huffpost.com/us/entry/8004730

I would just start googling 'girls and adhd'