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Annwithnoe · 28/08/2017 21:38

I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed tonight at the thoughts of the new term starting (dc start again on Wednesday). I had great intentions of getting stuck in on the physio and OT goals over the summer that didn't amount to much. And now the thoughts of trying to fit all that in, with school, swimming, and the homework battles and the mealtime battles and trying to give DS enough time to drone on about Lego and trying to be fair to a NT sibling and divide myself into slices so everyone gets a bit of me.....deep breath) Sad

Anyway, it has to be done. In the past I've tended to push aside my needs and run myself ragged, not because I'm auditioning for sainthood but just that dealing with one more person's needs is too much. So I find myself out in the rain with no coat having got everyone else into wellies and rain gear, or not bothering with my iron supplements or to eat a proper meal, and of course that just feeds a vicious cycle. But sometimes ignoring myself is the only relief from the constant relentless demands

Does this sound familiar to anyone else?

I know I need to get into a habit of taking my supplements, eat 5 a day, get some exercise, have a healthy lunch. It just feels like more to-do's or ways to fail as a parent. Sad

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Msqueen33 · 30/08/2017 19:17

You're not failing. I have three kids. Two have asd and ADHD. I'm sure one has additional learning issues and something is going on with my youngest's speech but no clue what. You're doing a great job. I hear parents of nt kids moaning constantly about how challenging life is and how tired they are. You do need to carve out a small selection of time for yourself though. Because you can't drink from an empty cup.

Almahart · 30/08/2017 22:50

Very familiar. I feel as if we're all reasonably recharged at the moment and am dreading the coming term.

I have just decided to stop drinking wine at home as that really wasn't helping, it just made me more exhausted

Going for a walk in the evening? Not that appealing but makes a difference I find

Annwithnoe · 31/08/2017 20:32

I'm distracting myself getting my house in order. But I do think that getting rid of some clutter and getting organised will help my mental state.
But I haven't managed a proper lunch this week, but at least had a healthy dinner tonight though listening to the kids moaning about how awful I am for making them eat such awful food didn't help my digestion
I keep forgetting to take my iron tablets, because if I don't take them on a full stomach I get pains, but then I'm not supposed to have dairy with them and I keep forgetting and drinking milk to encourage the kids to drink theirs!

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BlackeyedSusan · 02/09/2017 19:57

oh god yes.

people just do not have a clue

zzzzz · 03/09/2017 23:50

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