What to do - dd gets so upset and keep saying she is different

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It's so hard- she is 9 and keeps getting upset at feeling different.
I feel so sorry for her especially with no proper dx.
We are due to see daphne keen so I'm hoping she will help us. Had a sensory assessment the other day and have to hear but they said not a praxis but more of a modulation things for dd- she seeks movement was one comment.
Just been going on so long I really feel for her. :(

Sorry you're both having a hard time have you tried to talk to her about the fact everyone is different and while we may struggle with some things we're good at other things? I'd focus on what she is good at, and give lots of praise and reassurance.

Dd recently realised she was different although she is only almost 5 so big age difference but I'd gotten her a book which talks about how everyone is different and it seemed to help, would it be possible to look online and find a age appropriate book for her? Dd is diagnosed but I didn't bring in her diagnosis as she wouldn't understand.

I have done yes but partly feel is it my fault? We have had a lot of trouble trying to find out what the problems are for her so she has been a few assessments etc so I feel responsible however if I don't take her to try and find out what's causing problems for her I can't help.
We are going to dr keen to try and put the last puzzles together as the nhs have been so useless.
She can't sleep as one example and I have no answers as to why she can't when she asks me.
She keeps saying to me lately she likes odd numbers and to touch things a certain time makes her feel good in worrying now about ocd! Just so hard but she is so loved and we talk honestly about things but breaks my heart

It's not your fault, it's not anyone's fault. Try not to beat yourself up, you obviously care for her and are trying your best.
When you say you're struggling to find out what the problems are for her do you mean symptoms or causes?
For sleep it could be a number of things is she worried/anxious? Any lights disturbing her sleep including natural lighting? Does she have good sleep hygiene? Hormones? I spoke to a clinical psychologist recently who gave me some relaxation techniques for dd, i could dig them out and type them out later if you think they could possibly help?