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Blossom4538 · 02/07/2017 11:26

DD (6) anxiety, some sensory struggles, possible high functioning autism (maybe Asperger like traits) - is sooo impatient and lacks manners. She used to have beautiful manners but they disappeared a few years ago and it's sometimes as if she is v v avoidant of saying please/thank you, like its painful for her! I think this can be part of
Selective Mutism though. However, at school she holds it in, appears patient and demonstrates her manners.

Also, she can often sound as if when she speaks, it's quite "put on" or false if you see what I mean. Particularly when she is trying to talk nicely and more grown up.
She will also slip into baby talk which used to be for hours but we may have a couple of days now.

She can have a very stroppy, teenage like tone and is v v demanding. I imagine part of this is because she has no siblings, but it can't just be that surely.

Also, it's the basics, like getting dressed, brushing hair and brushing teeth is a huge hurdle for her every day, just the mere suggestion just now of brushing her teeth, even saying she can do it while she's in the garden, wound her up massively!

She would live in the same old dirty pyjamas if she could, never wash, do her hair or brush her teeth.

Anyone else find this? Are these slight ASD/Aspergers traits.

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sunshine99789 · 02/07/2017 11:40

Hi,
This sounds a little like my dd who is almost 8.
She does not like speaking to people and used to have fantastic manners up until she hit around 6, after that she appears to be so rude and ill mannered which really grates on me as I was brought up to always be polite.

My dd speaks 'through her nose' alot, especially when upset or about to throw a paddy!

I have to literally be standing behind her reminding her to do things...put pants on, socks, then dress. She gets frustrated if I remind her but then doesnt do it if I dont remind her!

She will not use toothpaste and brushing her teeth is a nightmare, I dread what the dentist will think at her next visit!

DD is currently under assessment for HFA

Hope this helps, you arent alone! x

sunshine99789 · 02/07/2017 11:44

Also forgot to add..she has no patience at all and if I dont do what she wants straightaway...well....lets just say its not good! (she is fine at school)

FidgetSpinner · 02/07/2017 12:19

Same here with my HFA dcs. Might be helpful to look up 'pathological demand avoidance' and strategies, can be associated with ASD.

Blossom4538 · 02/07/2017 14:26

Her behaviour is bizarre at times. A minute ago, we genuinely laughed at something she did (she wanted to make us laugh) and something little like this escalates, she gets hyped up, just sat talking to us and ends up kicking and hitting us, for seemingly no reason. We were just all sat trying to have a calm moment after Daddy has been playing with her all day - I'm really poorly at the minute - just recovering.

This often happens, like it's a shame that I feel hesitant or a sense of "oh no" if we have a little giggle with her, as her behaviour goes ott or she gets aggressive.

She couldn't care less that she just hurt me and her Daddy and that we were not happy with her, and just talked over us, asking for her snack over and over.

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