DLA: what can a NT almost 8 year old do? Comparisons needed!

[LittleOwl153]

I have been advised to try to claim DLA for my almost 8 (year 3 Aug born) daughter.
She's my eldest - and therefore 'normal' to me so am often surprised by things others her age can do.
Only comparison is my 3yo NT and feels like he's catching her up. He is advanced to his peers it seems so I am completely confused as to what DD should be able to do herself to complete DLA correctly.
Is there a criteria used for each age?

look at the cerebra guide to filling in the form.

Hi,

I have an NT 8 year old. Happy to answer any question you may have about what she can/can't do. It's hard to advise what she can do as she Some practical things she can do are

Brush her own teeth
Brush her own hair
Shower herself
Get dressed/undressed
Eat herself (as in serve up as you would an adult and she will cut the food/make sure it's the right temp etc)
Get herself a drink/snack

Socially she is a bit shy but nothing major. She has a group of close friends at school and a best friend who lives across the road who is like a sister to her. She makes friends relatively easily and is happy to chat to most children around her age quite confidently. She is also happy to hold a conversation with adults who she is reasonably well acquainted with (ie, my friends, neighbours etc).

I hope this helps a little.

Thanks - Black - the Cerebra guide is helpful - especially as ADHD is part of our issue!

Cheese - thanks. That does help. Showering herself is a way of for my DD.

Wipe her own bottom
Has basic road sense
shower without prompting but have help with hair
Sleep through the night
able to do basic chores, like dish washing or dusting

Does she need prompting with when to go to the toilet?
Does she need prompting on what to say or how to interact with friends?
Can she entertain herself in a game for a couple of hours?

Could someone link this guide please and the ADHD bit? Thanks

Things my NT almost 8 year old can do that my almost 10 year old asd child can't :

Go to the toilet without prompting
Wipe bottom
Flush toilet
Remember the routine of getting ready in the morning and evening without prompting to do each thing - "go and get ready for school" is enough.

Make a cup of tea for me
Go to the corner shop alone and buy what I've asked her to.
Shower, wash and dry her hair

Attend social groups and parties without a parent

Eat and drink when she needs to
Make her own breakfast
Realise when she is hot or cold and take jumper off / put it on without prompting

Understand verbal instructions given by unfamiliar adults

Express her needs. Tell someone if she's unhappy / hungry or thirsty / needs the loo.

Pack her own bag for a night away without checking.