Hi there
My eldest, DD of 8, has always been a hard work child. I've assumed it was because I didn't know what I'm doing and that I was just a bit of a crap mum. At the beginning of this year, the possibility of ASD was raised and after speaking to school and starting the assessment process, it's looking like that she might ultimately be diagnosed (at some point- the assessment process takes 2 years in my area). She seems high functioning and can hold it together at school but is really hard work and screeches and is sometimes violent at home (esp to her younger brother, who is 5).
We met the paediatrician last month and the notes of that meeting have just come through. It seems weird to see it all laid out and makes me feel like there really is an issue and it's not just crap parenting by me. DH on the other hand read the notes and just said "that's just DD. There's nothing in there that causes me concern and it's just who she is." At one level I know he's right (she is who she is and any diagnosis which follows won't change that), but I feel quite upset by his reaction and kind of alone. Does that make any sense? I know I can't do anything about his reaction or his views of DD and her temper and her issues, and all I can do is what I think is right for her. I guess I feel like I'm fighting this battle alone, which isn't great.