Today, my son got excluded for implied swearing at a teacher. He said something that was meant to sound as close to f**k as possible. But he didn't swear. They have problems with him swearing from time to time at school. It appears to be an ongoing issue for a number of kids there.
It's a bit long winded to be honest the whole story but I'll do my best to explain it.
He has a lot of social troubles. He has Aspergers. He often misreads other children. He's always clashed with particular children at school, mostly other Aspie kids.
Today what had happened is a boy who I will name B was continually flicking paint at my son and various other children. According to my son the teacher ignored it save telling B to stop. B did, then when the teachers went inside for some reason, B started doing it again. Eventually my son retaliated by flicking paint back, and got caught. He was told to go indoors, and because of his sense of injustice (at having kept his cool for what felt like an age) he stormed off across the field. The 1-1 went after him and asked him to come out of the hedge where children aren't allowed to go and he refused and then did the fake swear. Eventually he went inside as asked and then calmed down.
My son flits between being settled at school and unsettled. Usually he's unsettled if he's had a social problem.
Yesterday, he got kicked in the chest and throat by a different boy. I'll name him X. The whole thing is a bit blurry because quite honestly I don't think any adult witnessed it, I think the adult account was pieced together from child witnesses..... my son has been relentlessly pursued by this X for a little while lately, and they've always had a rocky relationship.
X sort of goods my son and my son doesn't know ow how to respond so he usual just does his utmost to ignore him and usually succeeds even though this is massively difficult. According to my son, he was searching the classroom for his water bottle and saw it was behind X who was sat in a corner chatting to his friends. My son asked X to move so he could get it, X refused so my son asked another 2 times. On the third time, my son tried to move X unsuccessfully and then X yelled at him and kicked him to the floor. X was not excluded for this.
Now, is it unfair that my son was excluded for today's behaviour yet X wasn't excluded for yesterday's physical attack on my son?
I accept completely that my son should not swear or fake swear at people, nor should he be any other kind of rude.
They struggle with my autistic children massively....and are always trying to seek reasons for their school behaviour as stemming from home.
They are almost entirely different kids at home.
I feel like both situations were mishandled by the school.