Even when he's good he gets the blame.

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Ds is a year odler than my youngest brother but they are in the same year group at school.

Ds has had severe behavioural problems related to his ASD and this has resulted in quite a lot of exclusions from school but recebntly he has been doing incredibly well.

we have only had one exclusion in the last term and only one in the term before.

Well my brother is very shy and quiet when at school but a complete monster at home. he is the baby of the family and as such is allowed to get away with murder, he is spoilt rotten and literally does as he pleases.

well he was sent home friday before last as he was complaining of being ill, as soon as he was out he was fine. he then refused to go to school all last week and just stayed home playing the PS2 all day.
Mum forced him into school this morning despite him moaning he didnt want to go.

when we went to collect them from school mum was called into the classroom before the bell had gone. when she came out she said that he had fallen over and hurt himself and she would take him back top the car.
when i collected DS i asked what Db had done and his teacher said "oh he has had a really bad day. he's been playing up something chronic and Ds has been a star" to which i cheered as its so nice for it to be the other way round for a change (sorry )

it turns out that he has been wanting to go home all day so that he can play the ps2 so he has decided to kick off at school and be deliberatly bad just so he can get to go home.

when i get back to the car and i say the teacher said he had had a bad day mum just says "yes he has been picking up DS's habbits"
she then proceeds to give him 4 computer games, sweets, cuddles and allows him to play the computer in the front room.

I am so angry. when Ds gets sent home from school i get lectures about how i need to curb his behaviour and how he must know that being sent home is wrong...FFS he has autism! yet my perfectly NT little monster of a brother is treated as if he has just got an award or something.

so sorry to rant but i just had to yell somewhere

God, no wonder you're cross, that's awful I would make certain your ds knows what the teacher said about him, but I'm sure you have already.

oh sometimes you feel you 're banging your head against a very,very hard wall!

sorry, no advice to offer, just to say we're listening while you let off steam

How did your mum manage to produce someone as reasonable as you, if this is her parenting style? Huh?

I'd be fuming too, in your shoes. And I'd feel very, very sorry for your little brother because she's really not doing him any favours. He's going to find life very hard if she treats him like this.

Oh, that's just not on! Poor DS and for your mum being so short-sighted - she'll make your brother's life difficult by being like this with him.

It's great to hear how well your DS is doing at school now, and well done to him for being a star today.
It was completely unfair of your Mum to make the comment about your son.

thanks all.

The thing is she was always really strict with us. i think it is definatly the fact that he is the youngest so he just gets so spoilt.

her attitude made me so angry, she is right that he probably has learned that if he is naughty enough teh school send him home and that he would have seen this from Ds but what she isn't adressing is the fact that he is so desperate to be at home rather than at school....why? its either because he is addicted to that bloody machine or that there is somethine happening at school, either wya she needs to sort it out.

But what annoyed me most was the fact that she is so quick to tell me that i need to be tougher with Ds ("you need to make him understand that he can't do that" ok mum, i'll just go tell that man without legs to climb a ladder as well shall i?)
and yet he has been deliberatly badly behaved and she treats him!

I knwo he is my brother and im sure deep down i love him but he really is horrible....as terrible as it is to say that....but he is.

oh sorry to hear that. last thing you need. I dod think the youngest always get away with it (or so my bro tells me)

lol i feel like a really sulky teenager getting left out or something.

But i am really proud of the progress Ds has made and it is really upsetting that she can eb so flippant about the way Ds is.

how come your on here??