I need a good, quick response for when people interfere when DS2 is in meltdown....

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please go away would be fine. it is good that she would be concerned but there is obviously extenuating circumstances here. i can understand why you feel resentful, trying to help your ds and then being interrupted. how is he now?

I suspect my response would be pretty similar to the ones your dh has in mind. I'm stunned that anyone would think they had the right to do that.

Suspect I would have administered a swift kick to her ankles (and my kids aren't even SN). "DS has xxx, this is 'child hold no 38', as recommended by top paediatricians. Now feck off" Would work for me.
I 'suppose' its a good thing she was so vigalent, but most of me just feels she was an interfering busybody...

It's good, isn't it, that someone wanted to check on a screaming child, that he wasn't being snatched?

I imagine all she saw was a child being forced, screaming hysterically, into a car. Worst case scenario springs into her mind, and she thinks "I don't care what she thinks of me, I'm going to check."

I totally understand how disruptive this was for you though.

I'm with Colditz.
Too many horrid people in this world so nice that she checked but I can imagine how annoying that would have been for you.

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I think it's how she did it that would annoy me. I suppose ideally you could hand her one of those NAS cards but when you're dealing with a meltdown the last thing you want or need is to have to go rummaging in pockets or bags to find one.

I'm tempted to ask if you could hand out a laminated "Feck off!" symbol.

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I agree with coppertop - esp if she didn't appologise ... if I'd done this I'd have grovelled to the mum afterwards!
Could you say 'Thanks for your concern but..."?

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Why couldn't she just ask if you needed any help?
Would settle her curiosity & maybe be more helpful than trying to quiz someone trying to deal with a screaming child. But I suppose thats advice for her not you.
I think the "feck off please" would be top of my list!

How about shouting

"When he is safely strapped in I will explain why I have to do this! Two minutes!"

Mymate I think they lady was concerned, not curious

Either way Colditz offering help may be a better approach than trying to have a conversation during a difficult moment.
But I totally agree, it is good that there are people out there concerned enough to step in.

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It was good that she was concerned enough to do something about it, how many of us would?!

But she he could have just asked if "everything was alright" and I can totally see that you would have just wanted to yell at her

I have a chld with SN but if I saw a struggle going on getting a child into a car it would probably cross my mind that the child might be being taken against their will

Not that I would have reacted like her!! I probably would have stood around nearby. But then again, that wouldn't be much help if child was being abducted lol

Having cards to give would be a great idea but as you say you have no free hands

we have signs on each side of our car windows saying "Remember, disabilities are not always visible"

Not that it might make any difference but you never know

Otherwise I would just turn round and say "My son has ......if you could just give us some space please"

sorry, have waffled!!!!!!!!!