Anyone dealt successfully with (immediate) family who resent those with ASD?
I've just had a horrible Easter weekend where my family came to visit to meet 5 month old DS, and my mother spent the whole time making digs at me and my father about my (diagnosed) and his (undiagnosed) ASD. My sister also made a few comments that made it clear she thought our mother's view was correct even though my sister would have more manners than to say such things.
My mother has found me an embarrassment all my life. She believes people with disabilities ruin others' lives, and that people like me shouldn't be able to have children. Thus she spent a lot of time telling my 5mo DS that she wanted to take him away so he could grow up normal, not like his mother. She also spent a lot of time telling my father that DS would only smile for her because babies only likenormal people. DS was initially smiling for both but ended up only smiling for her because my father became withdrawn and sad.
Obviously this is more a thread for relationships than SN children, but I've spent years posting on MN about my mother and am looking for new techniques to help this horrible situation.
Thus has anyone got any advice on how to deal with disability-related resentment?