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airy · 08/03/2007 12:40

I posted this on the main board and it was suggested that I repost here

I've posted before about problems I've had with education welfare officers, DD is disabled, there's a few factors involved that mean that her attendance is very low, under 50%.
But I have worked with the school, I have a letter from her doctor eplaining exactly what happens to her, how she suffers and how often it happens and thats in her school file, I also now get a dr's note every single time she's off to go in the file, and we have a setup with the school so she received work from them whenever shes off so she doesn't fall behind.
Now I've tolerated having her in touch with me, asking questions etc because I know it's their job and dd does have very low attendance, it has to be done etc but I have done every thing they've asked me to to satisfy them.
So I was quite happy thinking they were satisfied and I didn't have to keep justifying myself. Then last week I got another letter from them threatening that it's my responsibility they could take me to court etc dd's attendance is very low, and a date for her to come and see us at home. Getting pretty pissed off at this point and not actually going to be around on the day of her visit, I called to tell her to rearrange it if she really has to come out, she wasn't there I left a message with her collegue and told her to get her to call me aswell.
Then I called the next day then the next. She never returned any of my phone calls
Then I got another letter with a new date on, so I sat and waited and waited and waited, she never turned up!
So fast foward to today, my mum rings me up at 11. She's out shopping and she's just has this XX (ewo) calling her mobile!
Firstly I have never given my mothers numbers as a contact so wtf!
secondly she told my mother that she is very worried about Abbie, sh has tried repeatedly to get hold of me for the last few weeks regading Abies attendance and I have not returned any of her calls what frigging calls!!
She then goes on to tell my mother that she is obv aware dd has problems but she also knows that there is absolutely no reason for the level of attendance she has. So the Dr was spouting crap then..and she's qualified to say so??
I am absolutely F*G raging!! How dare she say those things, and to my mother and are they even allowed to go getting hold of your relatives phone numbers and calling them up!?
I feel thorougly harassed despite having done everything they have asked me to, and eplaining until I am blue in the face every tiny little detail about dd.
what the hell can I do about this?

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zippitippitoes · 08/03/2007 12:43

just posting to offer a sympathetic word..I can't help at all other wise

hope someone has some advice for you

coppertop · 08/03/2007 13:19

WTF???! I would be absolutely furious too!

I don't honestly know who you would complain to but presumably this EWO has a manager. It wouldn't surprise me if you weren't the only one who had to put up with this cr@p from her.

Mitchell81 · 08/03/2007 13:23

I don't know what to say, but just want you to know that I have read your post and have lots of sympathey for you. Do you mind me asking how old DD is and what keeps her off school. The reason I ask is DD also misses alot of school due to high temperatures, sickness, painfull joints, seizures etc. And so far school have said they understand, but still write in reports (due to many absences). I am waiting for them to start complaining.

Mitchell81 · 08/03/2007 13:25

Just looked at your profile, my DD is also 6.

tobysmumkent · 08/03/2007 13:53

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CanAiry · 08/03/2007 15:11

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r3dh3d · 08/03/2007 16:02

I think you need to write to the chair of the board of governors. You should be able to get name and contact details from the school office. Though "chair of governors, school address" will also get there. They are legally responsible for keeping the school in line. The odds are they will probably show the letter straight to the head, because they have 0 input to the day-to-day running of the school, but it is documentary proof that you have put your side of the story, and it is evidence with a nominally independent witness who will be terrified of the legal implications and chase up for you.

The point, I think, is that the school is getting government pressure to push down truancy rates. You're making their figures look bad so the dim EWO has to be seen to be doing something about it. If the COG realises this could be a SN/ disability discrimination issue, that will trump the truancy thing by miles and they should back off.

mymatemax · 08/03/2007 20:27

Hi Airy
Sorry you are having a tough time. I should put a written complaint, along with justification for your daughters absence with a report from your DR to whoever is in charge at the LEA.
If you have never given permission for this person to contact other family members I would think they are breaching confidentiality rules as well as behaving unprofessionally.

wb · 08/03/2007 21:21

Hi airy

not surprised you're furious, it made me angry just reading what you'd posted.

I echo what mymatemax has said - put in an official complaint to this person's supervisor. I'd also make sure you keep a note of the time and date of any future phone conversations, or messages left and copies of any correspondence to back up any complaints you may have in the future.

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