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We started VB ABA today!! And it went really well!

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kitegirl · 28/02/2007 16:11

First session with DS1 this morning, I have found a fantastic team, and DS1 loved it! He is responding really well to reinforcers, and I heard so many vocalisations that I had to check in to see if it really was my son in there! His senior tutor is excellent. It feels like there is light at the end of the tunnel now. Finally he is getting help, finally I have some tools and something to work with. I am so proud of my boy!

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Socci · 28/02/2007 16:23

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kitegirl · 28/02/2007 16:41

The one 19th March? No, too late for that plus the timing wouldn't have worked.... looks fab though.

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coppertop · 28/02/2007 16:58

Excellent news, Kitegirl.

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Homsa · 28/02/2007 20:34

Well done, I'm impressed how quickly you got your programme up and running!!!

Davros · 28/02/2007 22:54

Good news Kitegirl, it is great to get it up and going isn't it?
Socci, I have paid for tutors to attend conferences in the past and I think it is fair to offer to pay half of the cost or a proportion. They will be taking away something they can use again and again in the future, whether they are with you or not. Some tutors don't like to go to conferences (the money grubbers) as they may incur some small cost and it means they are not earning. We also shared the cost with other families but you must make sure you are not left high and dry with no cover or you can't attend yourself! HTH

MrsPhilipGlenister · 28/02/2007 23:04

Oh brilliant, kitegirl! We are seriously thinking about not starting DS3 at nursery yet, and using the money for some ABA sessions instead.

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kitegirl · 01/03/2007 16:36

He had another session this morning and I heard him say 'want car'. I nearly fell off my chair. .

Hey MrsPG - I took DS out of nursery to spend the time and money on this programme, and also because he's learned absolutely nothing there. We are going to go for LEA funding (Southwark is currently funding home programmes so fingers crossed!) and one of my tutors said that if DS kept attending his nursery LEA would try to show that his improvement is down to the school. I know, I thought it was a joke as well...

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Davros · 01/03/2007 20:30

MrsPG, Kitegirl - although a lot of parents (and professionals) find it hard to accept the idea of taking a young child out of nursery it makes perfect sense. Everyone is thinking that they need to be there for some socialisation, learning group behaviour etc but if they are NOT learning that then far better to help them learn enough to be able to do that and then reintroduce them. I have seen many parents keep up the nursery part at the cost of ABA (or 1:1 of some sort) because THEY can't cope with it emotionally.

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kitegirl · 02/03/2007 07:40

Davros - I agree! After meetings with DS's nursery management, his keyworker and what not, I found out that he is becoming more and more withdrawn, and over the past month has learned absolutely nothing. He never takes part in group activities, and with little play skills and inability to relate to the other children, I figured it was pointless and in fact detrimental to him to keep taking him there. The manager, sweet as though she is, kept going 'but if he has problems with socialisation wouldn't it be better if he had opportunities to practise this?' er, no if no-one is there to show him how!! It was really hard for me and I actually burst into tears when I told them that I was taking him out (cue manager with panic rising at the sight of a hysterical woman.. ) but it was the right thing to do. I am trying to organise play dates etc instead to keep some contact with other children.

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Homsa · 02/03/2007 09:46

I took DS out of two nurseries (a SN one for autistic children, and a mainstream one) when we started his ABA programme, and I was absolutely shitting myself! Felt like I was being really naughty and irresponsible somehow - or hang on, maybe that's how the professionals involved made me feel! I'm now absolutely sure it was the right decision though (especially with regard to the SN one!).

We started sending DS to his ms nursery again once he'd acquired some skills on the ABA programme, and he now goes there 2 mornings a week with one of the tutors as a shadow. I don't really want to send him for much more than that as I think he learns far more at home, but those 2 mornings are an excellent opportunity for generalising skills, and also to prepare him for the group situations he will have to cope with once he starts school (still a long way off for your DS kitegirl - you're lucky!)

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