Update from Flamesparrow

[Flamesparrow]

I thought I'd let you know how things are going here...

Well the past few weeks DD has seemed completely NT (although I am handling her as an AS child most of the time, so that could be helping).

The HV called yesterday for an update on how she is doing . She was really nice - I was saying about how she had been since the last call, and that I was back onto doubting myself (I have realised that a lot of my concerns about her are about how others see her - and that they have slightly skewed views on a lot of things as it is, so all I can trust is myself iyswim), and she said that where we go now is down to me.

I have decided that atm I need to look at this from home for a bit longer - now that I am not letting the outside opinions get in the way, and see what I think with a clear head.

The HV was lovely though and said to call if I change my mind and she will set up a meeting with the practice paed (or whoever it is that does this kind of thing) straight away.

So now its just a case of paying attention!

Oh, one question I do have... do they have phases of seeming pretty much NT, or is it that if they are AS, they are a sort of baseline (for them) level of AS all the time and stress etc makes it more severe?

I know that has come out all wrong, but do you sort of understand? I've lost all the appropriate words

I think a lot depends on what else is happening at the time IYSWIM. On an average day when the usual routine isn't disturbed and there are no factors like illness or tiredness involved then ds1 can seem NT. The difference is that if you make the mistake of treating him as though he is NT then it will all go horribly wrong. The nearest analogy I can think of is that when he takes his asthma inhalers and has no colds or infections then ds1 doesn't seem asthmatic at all. If you then treat him as non-asthmatic and stop giving him his inhalers then he would probably have a full-blown attack.

You're the best judge of your dd's behaviour so go with whatever course of action (or otherwise) that you feel is best. Good luck.

Like CT said. But I willa dmit to beingreally good at convincing myself they're Nt based on one single thing

Thanks - I will keep a very close eye on her and see where things lead.

Its all so confusing!! Children need to be born with notes