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What is happening to me?

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Blossomhill · 16/02/2007 22:02

I have a dd aged 7 with AS and Adhd. For so long I have read books, searched for stuff and gone to every support group/talk going.
All of a sudden I don't want to anymore. Didn't go to an Adhd conference today as I couldn't face it and haven't been going to my support group.
I just want to try and not have dd's sn as the main influence over my family.
Thing is I know there are times when she has to be but sometimes I just don't want to talk about it.
I feel like I have moved forward a stage if that makes sense.

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Blossomhill · 16/02/2007 22:03

Also wanted to add dd is going through a really good phase so not sure if it is connected to that?

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PeachyClair · 16/02/2007 22:04

That makes sendse I am ina quandary whether to pursue statementing for ds3, or rely on the fact that they'll HAVE to apply once he's there, as it is all turning me into a semi insane fruitcake with only one topic of conversation, no soh and few friends

You're ready to move on, its like the grief process- do so at a rate that suits YOU

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Blossomhill · 16/02/2007 22:07

Peachy ~ I have been there....

I think the dx has helped loads and loads too. The not knowing was dreadful. No more answers needed.

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PeachyClair · 16/02/2007 22:09

DS3 should get a dx in the summer fingers crossed! But school cannot apply until he is 4, and he starts school 2 weeks later- ie with no support unless I do that- haven't even had answer for Sam yet FFS!

Feel pleased that you are moving forwards! Its a good thing, menas you have dealt with stuff and ready to take on a new phase. Its extremely positive!

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Blossomhill · 16/02/2007 22:17

Peachy ~ that isn't true. Dd had her statement when she was 3. It can be done younger than 4.

Good luck!

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PeachyClair · 16/02/2007 22:22

According to Snap parents can apply at 3 schools at 4??

I dunno I;m confused!

Its all crap anyhow

No salt here (vacancy unfilled) so we cant getbhim assessed (he can mange 3 words max at a time), the ed psych says he ahead... then filled in form with nursery which puts him between 18 months and 2 on most things

Arrrghhhhhhhhhhhhh

half tempted to leave it so school so he can pee on the teachers (they've banne dhis nappies fgs) and then see what happens LOL

pHsl!

Chocol8 · 18/02/2007 11:14

Hi Bloss - i did this about two years back - stopped going to the support group (whose help i thought i could never do without) and now only go to the occasional conference.

It seemed really strange to me at the time, but a few months down the line, i realised that there were other things that i needed to allocate time and energy to...not just ds's AS and ADHD. Maybe as you say, it was because ds was going through quite a good time (though short lived).

Since the break from the support group, i haven't even wanted to go back and nor has my ds. I know it's there if we need it in the future and we still occasionally bump into friends from there. Don't worry, it's just something you don't need at the moment. xx

Lol at your ds peeing n the teachers PeachyClair - how ridiculous they have banned his nappies!!!

Davros · 18/02/2007 11:37

I have done exactly the same too BH & Choc. I used to be involved in everything and I enjoyed it and got a lot out of it as well as helping other people. In the last couple of years I have let a lot of things drop or treat them much more as optional. Mind you, having DD nearly 4 years ago was probably a factor but I really do think that I got to a phase where I was happy that DS was dong as well as possible, that we'd done our best for him and we didn't really have a lot more to do at that time. It is very liberating but, I agree, a bit unsettling! I think it is good for you as I see a lot of people getting to this stage but also some who never let go, who never relax and I think it is better our way!
Peachy, if you apply for your child's statement you can do it whenver you like. We started the statementing process when DS was 2 years old.

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Blossomhill · 19/02/2007 20:51

Davros and Choc ~ Oh well it seems like it's a good thing then
I don't want to read about things, talk about them or anything. I just want to get on with life.
Dd really is doing well and has a lovely life really. She has 2 real friends now (boys and they get jealous of each other) and they both sent her valentines cards. She went to the valentines disco and I was watching behind the curtain as she did the cha cha slide with her ms friends (a bit choked I have to add). Life is becoming easier and seems a million miles away from this time last year
A diagnosis has given me so much peace and maybe that's what I needed.

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Davros · 19/02/2007 20:59

Enjoy it and don't worry!!

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Blossomhill · 19/02/2007 21:06

I will thanks xx

How are you anyway Davros? Be nice to meet up again soon!

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