Screaming

[mummy2aaron]

Does anyone elses child scream in your face for 10 mins for nothing? Or is it just mine.

just wanted to reply - oh yes!

Thank goodness I thought I was just being a crap mum lol. He's just 4 on Saturday and his brother was never this bad although a bit hyper but then he wasn't autistic.

Usually its for something. Today it was because he wanted to go on the roof with the workmen (right), yesterday it was because some people were unloading a van outside in the street (not allowed to leave doors open). Also yesterday ebcause a light bulb needed changing. That sort of thing!

C'mon Jimjams, why couldnt he go on the roof?

Seriously though, my DD once screamed for a solid 15mins because I took her out of the swimming pool and then out of the shower and wouldnt let her go back in. She was about 3 at the time. Its a wonder they ever let us back in the pool!

Gosh JJ were ours split at birth, open doors lol - gates too - getting to school 5 mins walk away takes 25. He usually does it hen he wants something and when i finally find out what t is and get it if it's something that's possible he still comes up to me and does it for about a minute goes then comes back and does it again for 30 mins or more. Such a pain when I have a sinus infection again too. And I am so dreading the warmer weather when he won;t wear anything that doesnt reach his ankles and wrists.

My DS once spent 5 hours screaming! I believe there is always a trigger but as he has got older it has become much harder, often impossible, to ascertain the trigger. I also think it has become more complex and Challenging Behaviours can be multi-functional. I'm sure that sometimes he's just in a bad mood or upset, other times he might want something or not want something and then decide he likes the attention blah blah blah!!!

My ds1 is 5. He has a severe right-sided hemiplegia and cannot talk. He uses an electronic communication aid at school, but not enough at home, as we know what he means most of the time. There are many screaming fits throughout the day. I think he has a lot of autistic traits, because it can be anything from having to take his BELOVED coat off, to not having his drink sitting on the right side of the sofa arm! but most of all, I think his screaming fits are because he cannot properly express himself, which must be absolutely awful. You can take the screaming fits at home,its the public ones which you just want to crawl under a rock and hide. Still, such is life .....

My ds1 is nearly 8yo. He used to be a lovely lad! he still is until he starts screaming...He has perfected it now so that it bursts my eardrums and goes straight to my central nervous system!

He is frustrated bless him, he can't do all that he wants (no real speech, limited mobility - although he is mobile with walking frame/wheelchair) so life gets tough for him.

But sometimes its just plain old "can't get my own way".

He screeamed once in the GP surgery and I thought some of the patients in the waiting room would have heart failure, because previous to that, it was really quiet.

Ha I have just had a session of this again and I burst out laughing which he did too - at least it stopped him lol. I'll try it again but just shows there was no reason behind this one. Just have to find strategies for when there is a reason behind it.

"Challenging Behaviour" is proven to be connected to communication although the experts always say to rule out pain/illness etc. However, as my DS has got older I think there is a lot more to it as well as communication. I also find that joking with him or just being kind, calm and sympathetic can help.

Yes Davros I agree that being kind and sympathetic does help to calm things. To try to understand what is behind the screaming.

Unfortunately I only ever remember this after the screaming is done, and after I have got ratty. Then the guilt starts...

twoisplenty, I have to "work" at the kind, sympathetic reaction!! It doesn't come naturally I have to say but I'm getting better at it. I don't know if it makes any real difference to DS but it certainly makes me feel better..... I just have to remember in the middle of everything!