Another failed birthday party

[TeeCee]

We're going to stop getting invited at this rate.
My friends took her for me as I was out at the theatre.
She seemed to be really looking forward to it, talked all day about cake and chicken & chips and who she was going to see.
She lasted 20 minutes and I think that included getting there and back!
It was too noisy.
Such a shame for her

So sorry to hear that TC. I am hoping that the anticipation and the pleasure at being asked will make up a bit for not actually enjoying the party iyswim?

But maybe each time will get her used to what to expect a little bit more, and eventually she'll be able to cope with a bit longer each time?

Maybe it was all just too much in reality? Sorry it didn't work out

So what happened Teecee? Did dd just reeally cry?
I know it's really hard. Dd hated parties but is fine with them now.

Oh bless her.
I just said to her 'did you have a good time at the party?' and she listed 4 of her friends. I then asked her again if it was good and she said 'Larlott crying' so I said 'oh dear, why did you cry'. There was a pause and then she actually answered me saying 'loud'.

She's happily tucking into a peach now.

It must be hormones but I feel quite teary (not actually crying or anything), just feela bit emotional.

Oh early night for me tonight i think.

oh bless little Larlott! Sorry it didn't work out. Enjoy your early night!

I think it is so hard but you do learn what they can and can't cope with.

My dd is getting so much better and is looking forward to her valentines disco next Thursday. 2 years ago this would not have been possible.

Thanks all.

BH - not sure but she had her hands over her ears and was saying 'nooo loud, noo loud'.

My friend had her own son at the the party bless her. She walked her round outside rang D and he said just to bring her home.

Poor little sensitive thing.

Thanks for that BH, I live in hope then.

I know how she feels

tc - i know dd1 would not cope with that. We have been fortunate that the parties we have been to have been at the park, or the kids have played mainly in the garden. I do know for one - when they were brought inside to play some games that dd1 just did her turn at pin the tail on the donkey and then got out of there straight back outside - space and not so noisy.

Aw poor little thing.

My dd is exactly the same,it was getting so that we couldnt take her anywhere so we bought her a pair of eardefenders, in fact she has 3 pairs of different coloured headphones (depending on her mood) and we take one wherever we go now because she cant stand noise,lots of children, it really helps to calm her down.

Aw TeeCee, my DS hates parties too. I used to take him & I couldn't understand why he'd be hiding under the table & wouldn't join in the games & stuff.
Obviously all makes sense now, with the ASD diagnosis.
DS usually declines parties now, unless they are at soft play areas or are things like swimming parties or trips to cinema, science museum etc.

FWIW, I HATED parties, discos, dances and all that until I was in my late teens, because they were too noisy

Porr Lottie- I an't blam eher though, unfortunately Dh ahs cottoned on and refuses to go himself these days- bah

Not sure about her tucking into a Peach though- don't you know us peachys are out of season and the food miles involved? besides, its cannibalisticc so it is

Parties are very difficult. I had myself convinced that DS1 was outgrowing his DX until his 6th birthday party - it was Meltdown City and in the end he just sat at the other end of the field from everyone else blowing bubbles .