DD2 is now 9. Huge back story but as some will remember, I first raised concerns re. ASD in year 1 (although notices traits in preschool onwards), DD2 fell apart in school 1, lots of illness and absence, I was virtually accused of FII, so I moved her to school 2. Saw paed who referred to SALT.
She did ok for 1 term of school 2, then fell apart in transition to year 2 and despite their efforts, couldn't cope. SALT assessed and said she had some pragmatic language difficultly but it wasn't affecting her. OT found her 'average', but with 17th centile for some things and 97th percentile for others. Noted sensory issues. After falling apart at school 2, I withdrew to HE.
HE was ok. But didn't help her to address her difficulties. So we tried again and found a small school (100 children). She's been there since start of year 3 with 100% attendance.
She's now year 5. School 3 HT recognised her ASD ('aspergers') traits early on and phrased things in very ASD friendly language (e.g. 'we know DD2 doesn't like change. We know she likes clear expectations. We know she takes things very literally...). She has now, in year 5, gone a step further and said that DD2 will struggle in secondary school and, when I asked, agreed that getting her assessed would be beneficial and that she would give written support if necessary.
I've spent so long being disbelieved that I'm frightened that I'll get her to the point of assessment and then they'll say it's all in my head 