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Claennister · 24/09/2016 19:19

How do people cope with children whose conditions come with frequent bouts of pain? If DD sustains a particularly nasty injury or is crying her eyes out, it's easy enough to stop and give comfort every time as it's infrequent. But there's also a lot of niggles, pops, feeling sick, headaches and so on which are part of her daily life. Much as I'd love to scoop her up and cuddle her for every one, there's a need to learn to keep going. She'll have to fight through some pain to get on with her life, and if she's done something that's not bad enough to merit staying home from school then the clock marches on, and there's no time to stop and wallow in feeling sick when the bell is going to go. I feel horrible brushing her aside when she's telling me about sore legs and sickness and tummy aches and bad hips but there isn't anything i can do and life goes on. I have painful conditions myself (looking ever more likely she has the same one, it is genetic and dominant) and I know I can't stop every time. But there are times that I do stop and rest, and it's all too much, and I'm really struggling know where the line goes for her. She's very sensitive, a small cut on her finger is the end of humanity itself, so it's very hard to judge when she's really reached her limit. Interested in how others approach this one.

(Sorry, post rash, rare moment of calm!)

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gigglingHyena · 27/09/2016 13:06

I've got another who's reaction to a tiny cut on his finger is quite dramatic, yet won't tell us about his hip pain till he's unable to walk.

As our biggest issue is getting him to tell us, we do try to do something each time he mentions pain, even if it's just checking what number on his pain scale he is.

His OT has recommended this website of pain management strategies for children. Can't say he's engaged with it yet, but perhaps you'll have more luck www.painretreat.net/

I like ZZZZZ's idea of the child becoming the family medic, might have to experiment with that.

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