DD is 6.5, has non verbal autism. She was perfectly potty trained at age 4. We waited until she seemed ready and it was very quick to potty train her. She seemed to understand perfectly that you can't have accidents in your knickers anymore. Zero accidents in about 1.5 year.
Last summer, when she was 5.5, she had an impacted colon, which meant a lot of small poo accidents that she couldn't control (small, hard poos - sorry for TMI). We treated her with laxatives and then plenty of toilet training again but poo accidents have been happening almost daily since then. It's been almost a year. I know for sure she isn't constipated anymore.
And now pee accident (about 10% of the time which is still too much, especially in bed).
I tried everything from behind angry, cold showers on her bum every time there is a poo accident, from making her watch me clean it all up and obviously talking to her in a very simple way so she could understand... Nothing is working. She knows it's bad and will hide when she has had an accident. But at the same time she will start laughing when I clean her. I think the laughing is a self defense mechanism to kind of escape the problem and hopefully make me laugh too...(??).
I can't watch her non stop all day long - even though it's the only thing that seems to work... DH got upset at her in January and since then she refuses to go to the loo with him.
I'm so, so so tired of this. It's driving me nuts, I can't speak to anyone about this, and it's totally unhygienic. She is starting a new school in September where this simply CANNOT happen.
I don't know if it's a new "control" problem (don't think so) or she has unlearned that poo & pee accidents are bad, and that I'll just clean it all up anyway. Again, she isn't constipated (GP checked her bowels and she poos 2 or 3 times every day).
Are we the only ones in that situation??
Do you have suggestions?? She is non verbal with limited understanding, so I can't use reward systems.