How to get a child to co-operate with a regular procedure that they hate?

[LifeIsGoodish]

I hope this is the right place to ask, as I expect that parents of children with SN are probably more experienced at this sort of situation than parents of children without health issues.

My 9yo needs to have regular Peristeen bowel washouts, but he is refusing point-blank. We managed a couple of weeks nightly, then gradually less and less often. He chose chocolate at a bribe, but doesn't care any more.

He needs the washouts. His overflowing is getting worse and worse. He denies the problem (he know that he has the problem, but denies the accidents, both to us and to himself).

How can I help him? How can I get him to cooperate? I understand that it is weird and briefly uncomfortable. I hate doing unpleasant things to my dc, but it will help in the long run - if only he'd let me help him.

How do you know?

It does, because the instinctive reaction to putting things up the bum is ewww. Quite naturally. I want to make it clear that I am not transmitting any personal repulsion about it to my dc.

It's not about you, HE DOESN'T LIKE IT. You need to either find a comprimise or an alternative.

How do you know?

how do i know what?

Are you asking how i know the standard treatment for something i've suffered from?

Yes, because you're telling me something different to what I've been told. If there are other avenues to explore, I want to learn about them. Are you telling me from personal experience of chronic constipation, or as an HCP, or any other knowledge base?

(Text has no 'tone', not accusing or judges)

If there are other avenues to explore, I want to learn about them.
Your doctor will tell you about them, Assuming you've seen a doctor.

you telling me from personal experience of chronic constipation, or as an HCP, or any other knowledge base?

I have answered this.

I would go back to the consultant and say this isn't an option and ask for some alternatives. We have a history of bowel problems in our family and this treatment is not something I have ever heard of before and sounds highly invasive for such a young child. You have to weigh up whether making him upset is better than the physical problems caused by not doing it. I'm not sure to be honest.

LifeisGoodish My DD has nightly enemas but down her distal colostomy,
Your poor little lad, At one time DD 10 was having the catheter up her bum and despite her learning disabilities hated the procedure but needs must.

She also requires X2 weekly infusions which she also hates! Done by me!
No helpful suggestions but I feel so sad for you both. Maybe a trained paediatric nurse would be useful. I feel so sorry for him, buggered if I would like my mum stuffing a tube up my bum when I was young.

Good luck to you both. xx