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'icant help it'

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misdee · 12/01/2007 21:36

dd2 often says when she is struggling with something and letting out her usual soubnds of cockerals crowing, barking, screeching and yelps. she just cant be quiet. I know its somethign some of you will sigh and say 'oh at least she is verbal' but its an assult on my ears to have a 4 year old flapping and screeching constantly. Is there any coping stragegies she can use, or i can help her with.

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misdee · 12/01/2007 22:50

please anyone? because i have 3 hours of coping with her on my own tomorrow, and i dont know how much longer this can go on.

she really needs a dx and to be focused al lthe time. when she is concentrating hard she isnt so bad, just the occasional twitch or yelp.

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Dinosaur · 12/01/2007 22:51

misdee, does any other sound in the background help? Music, the radio, a DVD? Or the hoover?

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misdee · 12/01/2007 22:58

the tv does help, but she gets worse in public places as she gets very stressed when out and about.

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PeachyClair · 12/01/2007 23:20

Sympathies, we have PIGGY! again, bloody annoying isn't it, for all you know you should be patient and saintly and not mind.

And no I won't sigh and say at least she's verbal- ds3 isn't really and that is no worse.

We are addressing the noises as a priority: ds1 is encouraged to flap, spin etc as long as he doesn't make the noises, we're hoping he can learn to transfer the energy a bit. However he has started the noises at school now (' mummy steals sticky' repeated ad infinitum ??????? pardon???)

Ear plugs? headphones?

Or have yu tried a nice bug gobstopper?

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misdee · 12/01/2007 23:23

nice big gob stopper seems very tempting. or some sticky toffee.

its either constand noise or constant movement here. or if i am really lucky, its both at the same time.

even at night alseep she grinds her teeth [shudder]

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PeachyClair · 12/01/2007 23:30

No teeth grinding thankfully, ds2 sweats all night tho and sneaks i our bed which is delightful . The motion is astounding- absolutely constant. The aped intially 9when Sam was about 2) thought it was adhd except for his concentration ability when he will sit for ages.

Toffee sounds good.

Sam says a lollipop wopuld make it worse because he would ahve to sing about it. And now he is doing it- the old lollipop song- behind me. Wish I hadn't bloody asked!

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misdee · 12/01/2007 23:34

we have considered ADHD as well but she can concentrate brilliantly albeit with a slight twitch. so so far it has been suggested by professionals, Autism, aspergers and dyspraxia. she seems to be somewhere on the spectrum, but where? i am hoping school in sept can help pin something down.

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PeachyClair · 12/01/2007 23:43

there's another thread about this isdee- adhd and As, and whether as can include some adhd traits (oh yes yes yes)

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misdee · 13/01/2007 08:02

i will check that one.

dd2 has just been turned down for DLA again. i feel like dumping her at the offices for 24hours so they can see how she actually is.

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misdee · 13/01/2007 08:06

the morning started with a screech.

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KarenThirl · 14/01/2007 10:28

J usually does werewolf howls, pterosaur screeches, snarls etc when he's stressed. I don't stop him doing it, he'll only find something else that might be even less appropriate. If he needs to do it I give him the opportunity but make it socially acceptable - so if he howls when he comes out of school I suggest he keeps it to himself until he gets home then he can howl for ten minutes (or whatever). It doesn't stop him doing it but then only preventing the stress in the first place could do that.

PeachyClair · 14/01/2007 11:13

Hey karen- you get the Ptera birds too??????? SNAP!

nikkie · 14/01/2007 19:58

Misdee- have they ruled out tourettes? A kid I know makes lots of noises she "can't help" and twitches and has just been diagnosed tourettes

Fubsy · 15/01/2007 20:00

Sensory integration problems? If shes only doing it at certain times, it may be it helps her in some way. My DD makes noises a lot - its like she has to have noise around her.

Sometimes children do this because they have a high threshold for sensory input, and they need more stimulation than aveage just to keep them "ticking over". Sometimes this shows as fidgetting, sometimes as mouthing objects, or as noise.

You see it in adults and they dont realise what theyre doing - chewing pen tops, tapping or drumming etc.

If youre worried, ask if any of youre local OTs (or physios) have training in sensory integration, or have done a course called "How does your Engine Run?" as this could help.

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