I feel at the end of my tether.
DS is 9. He is a lovely boy, really lovely. But.
He struggles at school. Handwriting is terrible, co-ordination is terrible, memory and concentration are terrible, but he's great at reading and poetry (!) He wasn't at all disruptive (until recently) and just "zoned out". He is dyslexic and dyspraxic. However, at home it was always different.
He won't wear certain clothes, touch certain things, say certain words. This is escalating. He has never liked school because of the noise and brightness, we moved him to a smaller school. However at home, he still likes it quiet (unless he's got his headphones on and then it BLASTS). He won't go to parties or discos or take part in team games. He is furious at the end of every school day. He hides under the duvet. Being washed is a battle. Cleaning teeth is a battle. Getting dressed is a battle. He is obsessively tidy. He worries constantly about daft things (The fire of London!). He has to check all lights and plugs are off at the end of every night.
He cracks his hands constantly. His nails and toenails are non existant. He can't stop this.
He can't say certain words because they taste wrong. He won't touch certain colours because they feel wrong.
here's an example. This weekend he said he wanted a pj day because he was tired. I agreed. Later on in the day it was sunny, dd wanted to go to the park. I suggested it, we have a meltdown because althogh he wants to go to the park he cant take his pj's off because he said it was a pj day. We go round in circles for two sodding hours until he eventually falls asleep through rage.
I know he struggles at school with friendship. He talks at people. He can't play team games, if people break rules he loses it. He freaks if people alter his den, game layout, whatever. Other children are starting to notice this and tease him by deliberately doing stuff to make him freak. I witnessed it this holiday.
He constantly repeats phrases and words from tv. He re-reads books and repeats bits of them.
He came home from school today and said it made him sad.
He is under the school nurse for anxiety, but he won't talk to her. She has referred him to the pedeatrician because of wht i've written and what she has observed. I'm not sure what to expect I just know he is very unhappy and so am I. I will feel dreadful if i've "missed" a diagnosis.
I suppose i'm just asking for help and what to expect. I dread bedtimes and mornings, and any new situation as they are always awful. We had a weekend away over Easter and he was constantly freaked out by the fact that we were not at the same table as yesterday for breakfast. At the adventure playground he spent most of the time loudly reading the instructions about safety to the other kids while his sister tried to shove him down the slide. She is starting to say that he is ruining her time at school.
He's so unhappy. What can I expect from the paedeatrician?
Sorry if i don't reply soon, i'll have a four hour bedtime fight in a bit.