Help with Specail Needs in or near Plymouth

[Nattynoos]

Hi everyone.
This was the original thread i started in the Special Educational Needs Section. A lady has just said that there might be someone out there who can give me more info from Plymouth?
I am new to mumsnet - i log on everyday to read the threads but have never posted anything until now!
I have a DS who is 6 and has been diagnosed with ADHD. He does not show his anger in school, he controls it very well but when he gets home it seems that all hell breaks loose. He is under an OT and a Child Development Centre who are assessing all of this, but this morning i left school fuming. DH and i have asked for an IEP to be put in place at school and he is having difficulty with his pencil skills, concentration and focussing but was told by the SENCO this morning that we cannot have one, her exact words were 'what exactly do you expect me to put on this IEP'! He has been assessed by a Child Phycologist who seems to think that he needs one, so why do we seem to be having all sorts of problems with the school? We have had endless meetings with the SENCO and his class teacher but seem to be getting nowhere - he is now in year 2 and the problem was picked up in foundation, why do they keep putting brick walls in the way - surely anyhing that will help my DS and make their life easier would help us all, or am i being unreasonable?
Can someone please help me?

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Hi Jimjams2.
Thanks for your replies.
DS is at a catholic primary.
We have done everything that we can to help our DS. His problem was picked up in foundation where the class teacher thought that he was of the autistic spectrum. We referred him to the CDC as the school said that they would get it followed up and did nothing. We are now in year 2 and still fighting for help for him. He has now got a diagnosis of ADHD. I have been in touch with the Parent Partnership Service in Plymouth who said that they would attend a meeting with DH and i regarding an IEP and once i got a date from SENCO to let them know - judgeing by what she said to me today i dont think they will need to attend as it looks like he wont be getting one! Have spoken to Ed Psych on this matter (a couple of weeks ago) and when he asked if DS had an IEP and i said no he just tutted! Cant help but feel that DH and myself are fighting a loosing battle on this one.

I think I'd just request another meeting with the SENCO and tell her that parent partnership will be there.

Do you know what sort sof things you would like the school to be doing? It may be if you present them with a list they just agree (although some schools would do the complete opposite).

At the very least your DS ought to have an IEP - it seems to me that this school do not want to have your son in this school. You may ultimately have to consider moving him if they cannot be bothered to work with him.

This person is not a good SENCO at all, certainly what was said to you is unprofessional.

Will the Parent partnership group be willing to call this SENCO directly?.

I would also seriously consider writing to the LEA request assessment. A Statement of special needs is a legally binding document and would give extra support to your son.

IPSEA are very good and you could always give them a call re the problems you are having - their web address is www.ipsea.org.uk.